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Old 09-21-06, 09:45 AM   #1
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just wana ask a question, found out ystday that a friend of mine has suffered from depression for a few years.. its only cus she's feelin really down at mo she told me bout it, i love and care bout her so so much and i feel really bad that i didnt know bout it till now. i wana b there 4 her and help her get thru it and im tryin 2 encourage her as much as poss by chatting, emails, txts etc but cus i suffer from depression 2 im scared that im not gonna be that useful/helpful.
meeting her 2nite to watch a dvd etc and dont know how much i should talk about it with her cus dont wanna pressure her in2 talkin but dnt wana ingor it either.. help wot shall i do? i guess mayb i should just ask if she wants 2 chat?



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Old 09-21-06, 10:13 AM   #2
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silent cry - I'm sorry to hear that you're friend's feeling that way, but what a great friend you are dear! Just remember, that you can always be there for her, just try not to overwhelm yourself as well, because then it doesn't help either of you. You do need to also take care of you, while you're trying to help her.

Believe me, just by you being able to give/allow her to share her thoughts/feelings or what she's going through is a very helpful/useful to her. You might give her suggestions if she's talked to her doctor about the way(s) she's feeling. You can also suggest therapy/counseling, or even being able to bring it up to her parents. Just let her know that you're there for her & you can both work through it together, supporting each other. Maybe have her write down how she feels, get things out in the open, ask her what she enjoys, tell her that can also help/assist her when she feeling a little down. Just let her know that she has a lot of options; there's always something to help

You've already helped her probally more than you know, just by being the loving/warm/caring person that you are dear; just again, take care of yourself as well......

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Old 09-21-06, 10:25 AM   #3
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thanks aries. she was on citalopram but aint gon bak 2 docs yet so i did offer 2 go wiv her if she dont wana go on her own. & i introduced her 2 this site 2. i guess i will av a bit of chat 2 her 2nite and try and use my experiences 2 help her get thru it 2.



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Maybe her medications are working? If you're not seeing your doctor, when they start you on those & keep them informed of changes, they can't help if you're not helping them. You know what I mean? You seem like a very kind friend dear, more of us should have somebody so caring as you, I have a feeling you're going to help her more than you know.

I seriously was going to suggest this site, but I never know if people have pc's, kudos to you dear! She might also find that this will help her as well....

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i hope so, cus its definately helpin me. i av 2 go bak 2 docs in 2 weeks, im scared 2 mention some stuff tho, especially bout self harm cus scared they will lock me up in a hospital... duno what id do if they did, my dad would probably flip. ile mention the side effects etc but say v.little. i h8 doctors!



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I know how you feel about telling the doctor "too much information," but if you don't, they can't help you. I think that Mental Hospitals aren't all bad, I don't think that they're all good. It's just having another tool to help us, along our broken pathes. They do try to help put our pathes together for us & also allow us time to see that there's more help out there. We take away from it, or the experience of it, in our own ways; they're just there to help. Being honest is hard, especially when you scared of the "what if's," but at least if we are, we do get the help that we need. Just my thoughts, but think about it.......

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