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Old 05-04-18, 08:39 AM   #1
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Unhappy Wife having lots of trouble with motherhood

We have a little baby (~half a year old) and she was already struggling with motherhood based on her own experience growing up and not wanting to repeat it, and just general post partum and people being judgemental about every little thing (formula!? day care?! the horror!)

For about a week our baby was pretty sick and wound up in the hospital for a few days. It was pretty rough on her and some family members of course blamed the parenting instead of the random germ that got him sick. He's better now, but my wife is a different story.

She's having a break down. I went for a run yesterday while he was sleeping and gave her the baby monitor just in case. I came home to him crying and her with the baby monitor turned off. She turned it off because she just wanted to sleep. I got pretty mad because I felt like it broke the trust I had placed in her, but after cooling off for a bit I can see that the action itself wasn't a huge deal. My runs are like 25 minutes, so leaving him cry it out for a few minutes until I got home wasn't a huge issue, it was more just the fact that I asked her to take care of him and she didn't.

Anyway this led to more of a breakdown. She's not really functional right now. I'm trying to find a Psych ER in our city, but we're kind of new and I haven't found one yet. At least not one that takes our insurance. I can't even finish typing this up really as I have to take the baby to a follow up dr.'s appt for his sickness. I just wanted to vent a little. Thanks for reading.

EDIT: Oh and of course I had to take time off work for this. I don't mind using time off to take care of my family, but I always feel like a fool when I can't really give a reason. It's especially bad today since I've already had unexpected days off for the baby's hospital visit.
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Old 05-04-18, 01:22 PM   #2
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I bet you're not alone. I think it comes with the territory that people judge new parents. It's not personal towards your wife. At least she's not a single mom, as they're demonized by society and even considered whores.
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