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Old 11-09-14, 04:23 PM   #1
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She has been hurting and wanted time apart because she said she need time to figure things out. She also felt that she was a burden and that she was hurting me. We havent talked in 2 weeks. I want to reach out with a text.
What should I text her?
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Old 11-10-14, 12:30 PM   #2
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Something short, nothing too clingy, nothing to agressive, nothing too long. Simple "thinking of you", "hope you are doing well" or similar, would be the best, in my opinion, but follow your heart.
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My bf is having trouble with this at the moment. He doesn't know what to say to me. So his method is by keeping things light and just talking to me and making little jokes. It's not that's he's ignoring that I'm sad or anything, it's just he doesn't know what to say to make me feel better, so he tries to keep things light and joke with me a little to make me smile. He'll say sweet things too...

I'm not sure if that helps because everyone is different, but it works with me :/ And sometimes I feel like a burden and that I'm hurting him, but when we're together and he keeps things light and jokes with me and tells me he loves me and stuff, it does make me feel better.

Or maybe try the honest route? That you're only hurting because she pushes you away, that you love spending time with her and being with her etc....?

I don't know if any of this helps >_<
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I'd probably remind her how important and irreplaceable she is to me.
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Old 11-23-14, 10:30 PM   #5
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I would probably saying something like "I am here for you." Rather than text, I would probably make a phone call to her cell instead as it is more personal and requires more effort. If she does not answer, I would leave a voice mail saying something to the effect, 'I was thinking of you and wanted to let you know I am here for you when need a shoulder.' Perhaps something like that. Keeping it short like others have said is a good idea but if you sense she wants to talk then obviously talk longer. Just a thought. I know nothing about the extent of your relationship so it is tough to say.

I suffer from major depression, I know for me the one thing I have always yearned for when I am in dark place is for someone to knock on my door, give me a hug, and let me cry on their shoulder. To just care enough to be present without even saying a word.

There are a multitude of things you can do to show you are invested in being with her.
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I've felt the same way as your girlfriend, and the most prominent thought in my mind during the separation was something along the lines of "I'll bet he doesn't even think about me anymore" or "he's probably so much happier now". So a text saying something like "I saw a (flower, movie, etc) and it made me think of you" or "I miss you, and I hope you're doing well" might work.
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