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Old 01-07-07, 10:58 PM   #111
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I might just write him an email and just not talk to him in person. I really think if he says no to my face im gonna explode so I just might email him abut it.
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Old 01-07-07, 11:30 PM   #112
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You really should talk face to face with him. The things I don't like about emails, he could show it to her. She doesn't need to know that, you know what I mean?
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Old 01-07-07, 11:32 PM   #113
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very true. I hadnt thought of him maybe showing it to her. Man that would stink. i guesse I gotta face my fears and just talk to him about it alone sometime and hope for the best and if worse comes to worse bite my tongue so I dont say anythgin that I would regret
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Old 01-07-07, 11:42 PM   #114
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Like I suggested, maybe write it down, then talk to him. Your thoughts will be clear & you can stay focused on your task!
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punk, i am so sorry this is happening. its just too much. first everything with your mom, and now all this crap with your dad's girlfriend. what a mean thing to do on her part!!!! i cant believe she would have the audacity to do that to you. some people have a lot of nerve!!! more nerve than they should!!!!
punk, is there any way you can talk to your therapist about this? i think it would be really good for you to tell her about what that woman is doing to you. it will help her to see whats making you feel so bad. this is just so fucked up. it makes me angry to hear what shes doing to you, it just is not right.
if you can, i think you should talk to your dad in person. let him see how much this is messing you up. let him see how hurt you are. you have every right to be upset. really, he should be helping you right now, not making this more difficult for you by refusing to help you go see your mom. this is just bullshit. i am so sorry you are dealing with this. its no wonder youre so stressed out.
really, i think that right now you need to (a) talk to your therapist; and (b) talk to your dad. in person, where he can see how much this is affecting you. and at a time where his girlfriend isnt around to exert her crappy influence over him.
you will get through this, ok punk? we're here for you. im sorry i wasnt able to respond to you earlier but ive been having a hard time. im back home now, though, and im stabilizing. so if you need to talk, im here for you. please take care of yourself, ok? youre going through a LOT of stress right now, but you will get through this.
please let me know how youre doing, im concerned about you.
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Old 01-08-07, 12:59 PM   #116
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hey! im sorry to hear your mum has lung cancer. i know it aint always easy to forgive someone especially when they've put you thru so much, however i think it is a good idea for u to go see her this summer, sort out your differences etc..

dont know if you've ever heard it, but theres a song by mike and the mechanics called the living years.. some of the words say... its too late when we die to admit we dont see eye to eye.

and it also mentions about not getting the chance to say what you need to say.

i would hate for you to regret not saying the things you need to say to your mum.. whether its telling her how much she hurt you, or forgiving her, or telling her how much u love her, or whatever, i think you should say it while you still have the chance.

i also think forgiveness is important.. though its probably one of the hardest things you can do, it is holding on to old hurts that stops us from moving on in our lives.. once you forgive someone its like you are free again.. the things that were dont matter anymore. hope this makes sense?



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ive posted the song words to the living years in inspirational music forum if you want to have a look at them



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ive posted the song words to the living years in inspirational music forum if you want to have a look at them
Thanks I will definatlky check them out. It sounds kinda familiar.
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I cant talk to my therapist. you wkno that appointment on the 15th I was gonna ahve with her. Well my dad decided to cancel it. He said I didnt need it it woudl be a waste of money. i told him I need it and hes like well to bad its gone now.

I am gonan talk face to fgace with him because this is seriosuly tearing me apart inside. He has no idea how much this hurts.

I knwo I will get through this but I dont know when or how. The only support i have is you guys and AJ. Im not doing great right now. Im mad at my dad for cancelling that appointment even after I said I needed it. Im mad at him for not concidering putting me back on meds. He considered it for a ew days then said no. Im mad at the world.

You guys and AJ and my frineds are the only ones I can stand to be around and talk to. You guys are the only ones that care.

Im glad your back home and stabablizing.
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I'm glad you're planning on talking to your dad, Punk. It sounds like you really need to sit down with him and talk about some things...

Is there a counselor at school or anyone like that that you know, who could act as an advocate on your behalf, or at least a mediator - in case you need it - in case you still can't get what you need? I know the school counselors aren't always the best... there are school psychologists too.. don't know about your district...
Just a thought, if you need it...

I'm sorry you're so frustrated and don't feel heard. Your dad really needs to listen to you... I'm glad you're planning a talk... maybe you can make a list of what you want to talk about... organize your thoughts so you can really explain/express yourself well... time alone without his gf of course...
Best of luck. I know you know we're here if you want to talk to us about anything.... I'm glad we can support you in this way...
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