Welcome to the forum
Difficult situation my friend, and perhaps stretched further with that you both have your own depressions - it seems you understand well that this can be very different for each of us, and how to go about things.
My partner does not listen to me, and yes sometimes comes to the same solution as I suggest before. Most of the time though, just lack of understanding of anything beyond herself and doing things her way. So I can understand your frustration; I feel we are in different worlds and with different objectives in life. I am calm and patient, while she is quick to jump without thinking.
I think the problem is simply that you think differently on all. You are logical and can see the details that lead to the solution, while she is emotional in her thinking and with a different mindset will see things differently. Perhaps she does understand what you are saying but needing a second opinion always, there's something that's come between you both? I say this as to begin with my partner seemed to want to be with me and listen, then with problems with my ex (mother of my first two children) a distance developed and she doesn't listen or seem to have heard things that I say/advise/ask to her.
It sounds quite a bit like my partner, so rather than getting so worried and frustrated by the same things happening, perhaps try to see that she thinks in a different way to you - we're not all logical, just as we may be extroverts or introverts, it all makes us unique and understand things in our own ways (or not...).
It might be time for a clear the air talk, to be sure you are both understanding each other well. I freely admit that with my partner both our frustrations are such that we probably would not be together if not for our son, but we are talking about your situation now - how is your relationship aside from this?