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Old 02-06-10, 07:06 PM   #1
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My best friend is massively depressed, I love him more than anything - there are 2 people I care about right now, he's one and I'm dating the other.
He's also on this site, but refuses contact with me here. I understand his reasons but he phrased it hurtfully. But the thing is, I've this irrational fear.
He's friends with one person in particular on this site, she's a bit younger than him, he loves talking to her and see's a lot of himself in her. He said he wants to save her from his path in life.
Thing is, he's in a really dark place right now, is often in a bad place, but its getting bad these days and all he talks about is death when he's being totally honest. I'm worried that he's waiting to make her happy, properly, and then leave the site on the grounds of "I don't need it anymore" and kill himself on grounds that he's redeemed himself... It's not very rational, but it terrifies me, and it seems like something he'd plan. =[
He refuses point blank to tell his parents or a GP or a guidance counsellor, and I'm just so worried about him, he can't see the serious problems - he got hurt after a relationship and he still cant view it properly in hindsight, and frequently blames himself and not that this is how it goes. He cant see where it was his fault, and sees her anger and harsh words for what it was - stress, and the fact that she was upset, and sees that as "I hate you and you should kill yourself". This REALLY affects him...
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Thats a really difficult situation to have to deal with, especially if he's on this website and can see these posts. I dont know though, sometimes being a friend means doing something they may hate you for, but in the end could help or potenially save them. Maybe tell his parents? or someone?
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Thats a really difficult situation to have to deal with, especially if he's on this website and can see these posts. I dont know though, sometimes being a friend means doing something they may hate you for, but in the end could help or potenially save them. Maybe tell his parents? or someone?

Ah shit. This doesnt really relate the original post at all (although it refers to a similar situation) but that really is the last thing i needed to hear now >_>

To put it simply, in this dilemma, im the one with the issues who refuses to tell anyone, someone (probably for a good reason) went past me to tell my parents, and I got angry at them and then lied to my parents about it >_>

So now i feel like a royal bastard. I really didnt need this now >_>
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Old 02-12-10, 08:00 PM   #4
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See, thing is, someone DID tell his parents, months ago, he just lied about it when his mom cornered him about it. Then they told him they'd be ashamed to have a depressed son, incapable of coping with reality. :/ I think that if she knew the truth she'd TRY to help, but I can see him getting 50 times worse for months.
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