I thought that things were looking good, when I got the dreaded phone call this afternoon.
Thank you Call Display. I chose to not answer it, and it's a good thing that I never. Or it would have ruined a nice day.
He was stresses right out, because he couldn't figure out the easiest computer task, while attempting to look for work, and said he feels like the biggest looser because of it.
I've offered him some lessons on the computer in the past, but he choose not to take them, so he did it to himself.
Just that message was enough to stress me out.
I see no choice other than calling him up tomorrow, and telling him to either seek help elsewhere, or never contact me again.
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Originally Posted by ilusionistSpark
Hi coupleofquestions,
I think there are only 3 ways:
a) you 'understand' this person and give him support in order to change;
b) you don't sympathize with his life views and tell in him in the face;
c) a+b;
I had a depressive friend, I tried b)... the friendship stood just because he didn't want to acknowledge that we had almost nothing in common... and he made a lot of compromises, I did some too, but there were all avoiding the truth. We were no longer friends.
I tried a) also, but it seems to me that he doesn't wanna change, he likes retreating from life in hope for some salvation or sentimental justice, being an apparent grown-up, but more childish in fact. He is also very resistant in front of change, I tried to give him help... but I got "I'm not like you" instead, implying that I'm irresponsible, a very fierce resistance... very aggressive. Well, I tried...
I'm not giving support anymore, as he doesn't deserve it. I'd rather tell him "Fuck off. Go to your retreated universe in hope you'll find a childhood again". People often refer to him with "big child", and it's so obvious why.
I rarely tried c), just when I got really angry because of his resistance to change.
Maybe some of them just don't want to change, and I won't insist on it.
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Thanks ilusionistSpark,
Your right.
A didn't work, and wore me right out.
Trying the polite approach didn't work.
So I see no choice but to try B, although I won't be able to see him until next week some time. And I want it over with before then, so it'll be over the phone this time.
Which is more consideration than he'd give me (I know first hand)
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Originally Posted by sybil08
Hey CoQ!
Thanks for the hope...lol...I unfortunately love a LOT of things and can be pretty good at anything I set my mind to and learn properly. Problem is deciding which one is my top pick and investing in it without fear of external pressures (ie. money, family and ppl etc.)
I'm 24, so yea I expect I'll find my niche I guess...but then my problem has always been that I'm too busy sustaining life in general to absorb myself in the things I'd love to learn and figure out my niche.
Nonetheless thanks for the positive input, and it is just hope lifting to see someone else realize their dream later on (after having done a whole other field of work and all!). I do hope to make it there someday and my little dreams are stil in the back of my mind everyday i'm at work working for a paycheck :)
As for counselling - I do have a knack maybe...I've always wanted to be a psychiatrist too, but unfortunately I do not have the time and money to head to med school right now - I don't see how the blind leading the blind would work out though. I would also like to be in something creative and fun...I considered photography of course, but now am leaning to graphic design...i can't draw to save my life so THANK GOD for technology! hee hee - pls feel free to pass along tips if you like :)
I'm not religous much either but I like your view about what Jesus would do...though not Jesus, I do a similar thing where I just try to put myself in the other person's shoes and erase all my own misconceptions to get a better understanding of situations and then I tryto always act on what I know is right and stuff. I think all in all if more people did think about what they did in some way the world would be a better place. Have you seen the movie Pay it Forward? It is a great example of this and something I secretly try to do though corny as hell lol. By the way, ever thought of buying yourself the 'WWJD' gear (What Would Jesus Do?) - It was a huge fad amongst the religous and pseudo-religous when i was grwoing up...
Anyway, I think you have some wonderful pictures, and a big heart. I'm glad you got yourself off the hook with that friend easily enough and I'm not surprised from the sounds of your post you seem like a person whose reached their own enlightenment so to speak, content and kind...its a nice thing to see. Thanks for dropping in on TTL I'm glad to have cyber-met-you lol.
And oh yea, you should look at various design companies if you have not already. I know a prominent one where I live who has done a whole ad campaign for a national art house based on photography, they take different photographers for each show and have them do the poster, billboard, etc. in their style. It is just fantastic! I'd love to see your work up there one day :)
Anyway, cheerio...have a good day.
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Thanks sybil08,
I think that you'll be in good shape, when your thing pops into your life.
Take your time, and enjoy life until that moment arrives
I have a couple of galleries around here looking at my work, but haven't had a showing yet.
That National Art House sounds interesting. I wish that there was something like it around here.
I might have to look into traveling some more again soon (I was trying to settle down after 2 years on the road more than at home)
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Originally Posted by brandysnap
It is so beautiful i can feel it on my face....
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I'm glad that you like it
While my creativity was returning I made it out with the camera, capturing these images.
It felt great having the spark return for a short while.
My girlfriend is bellydancing on her 40th birthday, on Saturday, so I'm hoping that it'll return by then.
It would be a wonderful memory for both of us, and a breathtaking photo would make it soo much better.
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