Hello! This is my first post and I hope I am welcomed :)
I have been with my girlfriend for 8 months. She is in her early 20s and so am I. I know we have not been in a relationship for very long but we moved at a very fast pace. This is because we have been living together since before we were together. We were friends before and lived together and still do (along with a few other friends of mine).
She has been depressed before, about 2 years ago she was diagnosed and was on meds (no idea which ones). but she got better, unfortunately for the past 3-4 months I have seen clear signs that she is depressed again, now more than ever. She compains about everything and she always cries about small things and sometimes about nothing at all. If she is not crying she is angry with everything. I am the total opposite and I rarely get upset, I understand the clash here but I do not know what I can do. She does not seriously harm herself but she will tend to punch random objects near her.
I do not know what approach to take. If she is feeling depressed, I try to not fuel it by trying to be friendly or trying to get us to go out and do something together but it never works. So sometimes I try to be compasionate and give her a hug and listen to what shes saying, but she just does not stop crying.
I do not want to break up with her but it is really bringing me down. I wonder to myself if it would be best if we broke up so she does not have someone else to constantly worry about, but then I am confident it will make her worse because (not trying to be big headed) I am all that she has in this little town.
I am sorry for the long post, I could go on longer, I have no idea what to do. I have just about convinced her to go back to the doctors. I just do not think that meds will be a great help this time.
I just wanted to get this out because for the first time, I can see it affecting me. In this situation should I just be supportive and patient and wait for it to pass? Or is there anything I can actively do? She finds flaws in every single thing and I dont know how to deal with it any more. The fact that we live together may play a big part in it. She complains that she hardly sees me but in truth we see each other every day in the evening and usually every weekend. I have now taken up another job so she complains that she may see me even less.
Please help in any way. Once again, I am sorry if this is very long and I am sorry if anything I have said is wrong or selfish. I have read other peoples similar situations but I needed to get my own out there. :)