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Old 07-01-10, 08:19 PM   #41
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Damn automatron, what you doing in my head man?

I too have days where I want to punch someone, but alas I probably wouldn't be able to knock them out, my work outs are too irregular and I think I'm too weak. Only thing I can say, it passes, let it run out.
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Old 07-01-10, 08:37 PM   #42
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I feel your pain, man. I have had an awful time getting into relationships over the past couple years even short term. It's been wearing me down in a terrible way. I don't think it's the lack of regular sex that has me; it's the feelings of loneliness.

A lot of my friends are married or in serious relationships, and I am always the one who is still single. I appreciate the advice that people on here give because I think my problems stem from depression, lack of confidence, and the fact that it's been hard to meet any women. The sad thing is that I have confidence sometimes, but it's intermittent.

It's good to see that there are people out there who can empathize with you. I'll stay the course and try to follow some of this really good, well-thought advice. Thanks.

I doubt that it's a case of you being ugly, stupid, or an asshole, automatron. I'm sure you're none of those things. Women end up going for some real douchebags, and the only way that I can explain it is that they are confident douchebags. It's frustrating beyond belief, I know.

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Old 07-02-10, 03:43 PM   #43
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I've come to terms that I will never be normal enough to hold a relationship down. Casual sex is easy to get, even though that's not what you're looking for. Meeting someone I would like to spend the rest of my life with and would be able to put up with my bullshit is a different story.

I wouldn't force my problems on any woman.
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Old 07-02-10, 04:15 PM   #44
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I'm sorry you've encountered these girls. Especially that first one talking about all the other guys. That's incredibly lame.
Not all girls are like this and 'those that are' just make it more difficult for 'those of us that aren't' to be taken seriously.

I saw you had said you didn't want to be a girls friend and then hope to be more later because girls don't want that. I tend to prefer being friends with a guy first. That way a trust is already built. But I know that's just me, and everyone is different.

I'm sorry you've been running into the girls that are idiots. Not all of them are, I promise. I hope things get better for you soon
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Old 07-02-10, 08:47 PM   #45
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Just to update. I'm not feeling quite so angry and maniacal now. I'm going to read through your posts and respond some more.
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Old 07-02-10, 08:59 PM   #46
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I've been trying to be positive, but it's really hard. You have to have some hope that a thing is going to work out to have motivation to keep trying. But after constant rejection and disappointment, it's extremely difficult not to prophesize that things will suck forever.

I don't want to punch anyone right now. I went out drinking last night and really shouldn't have. My anger was going away by then. Didn't meet any women.

At the root of my depression, is this belief: "If I am not in a relationship with a woman, then I am worthless and have no reason to live." I've put a lot of work into challenging that belief, but it still lingers.

My therapist reminds me to try to be patient. I'm very impatient. I want things now, now, now! Tomorrow might not come, lol. I'm going to try to be grateful for the other areas of my life that are good right now: family, friends, having a job, etc. The romantic loneliness can quickly dwarf any good things in my life.
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Old 07-03-10, 12:17 PM   #47
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Well I consider myself ugly as hell and I have extremely low confidence but I had 2 girls in the course of 4 years that have been attracted to me.With the first it didn't work out because of my moronic and shy conduct and I had sex with the second,but she has a very jealous boyfriend and I almost got caught.What I want to say is that in the end you will find someone even if you don't believe that you will.Trust me I never thought girls would be attracted to such an ugly bastard like myself.It all happened when I started losing interest in it and started focusing on other activities and the women will come.
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Trust me, I wish I'd never had a relationship. Even when they aren't evil and haven't done anything wrong and it ends the heartache is unbearable. I feel like I can't breathe. If I could take back the whole relationship, I would. The intimacy of sex is a wonderful feeling, yes. It's not just about animal pleasure, it's about being close. But sex can also hurt you in unimaginable ways. Just remember, the minority of couples are very happy and very few people are fully sexually compatable- the odds are if the neighbors are making a lot of noise it's that they're overcompensating for their inadequacies.
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Old 07-05-10, 08:57 AM   #49
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Im not gonna patronise you by saying I know exactly how you feel and this is what helped me. I bet that deep down if you thought about it,m you dont want to do that other people, ive felt the same, U just want to snap and let the next person unfortunate enough to be in ur path know how shit life can be, because chances are they dont know.
But that would accomplish one thing only really, it would make things worse for you, guilt, possible legal action, yknow what I mean. Im taking mild tranqeluisers at the moment for similar reasons, im scared of how I get sometimes and despite how I might feel at the time, I dont want to hurt anyone, not really. Maybe its the same for you? Ive spent years having a series of really rubbish relationships, I dont get girls sometimes, but sometimes it helps to look at where im going wrong, what Im doing to make the react the way they do. The fact is im going out with a great girl right now, really cant fault her, yet some days I cant face her, I dont love her, and I find myself blaming her.... But deep down i know that isnt REALLY how I feel. The problem is with me. Im starting therapy soon, see someone professional who may be able to pinpoint whats wrong, I hve my suspicions.
Anyway, I mean to disrespect at all to woman or girls, but chasing girls for a shag wont make you happy or change anything. The media and everything in this world tells us to be happy we need money, sex and fame... What a load of bollox. Sometimes it seems everyone is just being a twat and obtruse (yknow the ol saying, just cause ur paranoid doesnt mean theyre not after you). But for instance the girl who wanted to bring a friend, thats sensible, she probably really wanted to meet up with you but doesnt really know what to expect, bringing a friend would have made her feel more secure with that, Im guessing. Give her a chance, you might be surprised....
Dont give up dude. Theres a solution to every problem, im convinced of that.
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Well i have a few pieces of advice as far as "picking up" women is concerned.

Basically, its confidence, most guys iv known who suck at talking to women or getting a date usually let nerves and "what ifs" get to them well before the girl has a chance to say yes or no. Just take some time out to calm down, and just forma rough idea of what you would like to talk about with her, and if she accepts your advances where you could go, just rough, nothings set in stone, just a little prep work so you don't have to think on the fly while in a pressured situation.

Another problem iv seen is "trying too hard" or to be something you are not. sure lieing is fine in the short run, but if you want a longer lasting relationship you have to be up front and honest.

The last bit of advice i can give is to be realistic, its unlikely you will find somebody overnight, but if your committed to it, it will happen.
Be realistic in your expectations of your prospective partner, its all well and good to hit on the supermodel but honestly whats the chance she will say anything but no, and that's gonna do some damage to your self esteem. be honest with yourself, with what you want, what you need, what you can offer, what others would want from you.
Often were overly critical on ourselves and convince ourselves we haven't got a chance, before we even go over and talk to her, or we get cocky and assume were superior and write people off or shoot people down.

taking another read through your posts, is it possible your coming across as desperate? that may be part of the reason why they refuse.Theirs also the possibility that they are in fact being honest, and youv just been unlucky. I guess with most things in life we want its gonna take unbearable amounts of patience and persistence.

Hope iv been a little helpful and if i haven't, sorry : /
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