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Old 12-23-15, 06:38 PM   #31
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I play video games, play guitar, write music, read, hang out with friends...
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Old 12-23-15, 06:49 PM   #32
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Oh I'm sorry you were disgusted about gay activity. At least you followed through, so you were able to end that mystery. Good on you for being secure enough in your masculinity to experiment. A lot of men, maybe even the vast majority, seem to have this masculine armor.

I feel guilty as a promiscuous girl about that statistic, at least as far as decent men like you are concerned. I think it's sad. It just seems like there's no solution to this whole battle of the sexes. I would say monogamy is the only way to be fair because then everyone would have at least one partner, but that has been tried. What's the world's oldest profession? Men see prostitutes in those societies, and often bring back venereal diseases, including HIV, because they make the lame excuse that they're so oversexed.
I didn't follow through until the end. In fact I was surprised I even had an opportunity with a guy. The opportunity just presented itself, but I've never been attracted to guys. I only did it out of desperation, and stopped in the very beginning. I know it's not me, I'm sure.

Monogamy is the best solution. To be honest I see prostitutes from time to time, because it's my only outlet for sex. I'll be 24 in just 3 days. If I don't get my first kiss really soon, then I'm seeing an escort for that. Thank you for thinking I'm a decent guy, though if women really liked guys like me, I would have a girlfriend already... and I wouldn't need to be comforted. If I really am decent in the eyes of society, then I wouldn't be suffering like this.
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Old 12-23-15, 07:44 PM   #33
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Oh my god I can't believe I'm 24 already and never even kissed a girl... I'm really hurt right now. I'm so damn hurt. This is the worst kind of emotional pain imaginable.

I feel like my life is completely worthless and devoid of any meaning or purpose, and as time passes the feeling only gets worse. On top of that I have nobody in real life I can talk to about this. They don't understand. Even therapists don't.

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I'm starting to believe I really have no hope... I'm going to die alone.
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Happy Belated Birthday.

Relationships are very very overrated. There are tons of really nasty diseases out there, including incurable and deadly ones, ones that are worse than cancer. There is also the chance of getting someone pregnant. There are teen dads who would probably love to switch places with you and have their whole lives ahead of them. I know at 32, I would love to be 24 again with the knowledge I have now and have more time to make something of myself.

I think society would be better if people just abandoned monogamous relationships altogether because nowadays I don't think partners can really be trusted to have unprotected sex with on a regular basis even if you think you know them. There are men who get trapped into marriage by some women who deliberately stop taking their pills and don't tell the man.

Escorts are the way to go if you have the money, you stay safe, and you stay out of trouble if you ask me. With time you could try to get one or two FWBs although they won't be as attractive as call girls. And at least you're not a virgin.

I'm going to die alone...by choice.
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That was refreshing to read SG, this may work for him, no shame in doing what she suggested don't tell the world of course.
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That was refreshing to read SG, this may work for him, no shame in doing what she suggested don't tell the world of course.
This is like giving all your dogs delicious meat and then throwing the weakest one a tiny bone... Why should everyone get normal relationships but oh not me?

The thing is that I want a girlfriend. But honestly I'm starting to believe that love does't really exist. Even when we see it around, it's only an illusion and an act. Yes, this suggestion might work for me, but why do I have to be deprived of normal human relationship? Last I checked I was human as well.
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Happy Belated Birthday.

Relationships are very very overrated. There are tons of really nasty diseases out there, including incurable and deadly ones, ones that are worse than cancer. There is also the chance of getting someone pregnant. There are teen dads who would probably love to switch places with you and have their whole lives ahead of them. I know at 32, I would love to be 24 again with the knowledge I have now and have more time to make something of myself.

I think society would be better if people just abandoned monogamous relationships altogether because nowadays I don't think partners can really be trusted to have unprotected sex with on a regular basis even if you think you know them. There are men who get trapped into marriage by some women who deliberately stop taking their pills and don't tell the man.

Escorts are the way to go if you have the money, you stay safe, and you stay out of trouble if you ask me. With time you could try to get one or two FWBs although they won't be as attractive as call girls. And at least you're not a virgin.

I'm going to die alone...by choice.
Thanks. Although to be honest it was not happy at all. It was full of depression.

I'm sure I'll never have a FWB. If I can't even get a girlfriend or even just a kiss, nothing can make me believe I can get a FWB. I've already seen 4 escorts, and planning to schedule regular visits soon. But that won't solve the problem entirely.

At least you're choosing to die alone. I'm not. You found this on your own. I wasn't even allowed to.
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Life is a permanent problem, and for some people it's a greater struggle than for others. I've known plenty of depressed people, not one of them has ever used that old phrase. "Permanent solution" is something people say because they don't know how else to help. It's difficult, but if you can it's best to ignore the voices that don't offer empathy. If you can't offer empathy to a depressed person, you can't offer anything.

As far as your intimate history, a few things...

My current girlfriend is 26. She had zero sexual history and very little dating history before we met less than a year ago. My personal relationship/sexual history is a bit messy. For many years I did stupid things that I at times regret. I attribute it to the same things you're feeling: I was desperate, hopelessly lonely, and depressed.

I also had a view confused idea of what a relationship/sex life is supposed to look like. Media/social media, and people in general paint a terribly inaccurate picture of sexuality really is. There's a lot more people your age with little/no expereince than you might realize. And there's nothing wrong with them. It just hasn't happened yet.

Of course, I know none of this helps you meet anyone. Overcoming stuff like social anxiety isn't an easy fix. It takes time (which I know something you feel like you can't afford since you're "already" 24), and possibly some therapy. And ultimately the difficult things with relationships/sex is you can't force them. They are opportunistic occurrences (that is, you can't just go out and get someone - no matter what TV/Movies might tell you - the opportunity needs to present itself and the right things need to fall into place). Relationships can develop when you least expect them.

If you want some reason for optimism there's this: once you've been able to break through, it's very easy to get caught up. It's entirely possible that you'll be 26 with a couple relationships behind your back. I know it's hard to fathom, but it's true.

I'm 29 now. I remember when I was 19 I wrote a post on another forum very similar to yours. I had never so much as asked a girl out and I said something along the lines of "by the time I build up the courage/ability to start a relationship I'll be a real-life 40-year-old virgin."

One year later I lost my virginity and was in a relationship.
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Oh my god I can't believe I'm 24 already and never even kissed a girl... I'm really hurt right now. I'm so damn hurt. This is the worst kind of emotional pain imaginable.

I feel like my life is completely worthless and devoid of any meaning or purpose, and as time passes the feeling only gets worse. On top of that I have nobody in real life I can talk to about this. They don't understand. Even therapists don't.
How many times have you gone to therapy? Like, how long did you see the same therapist continuously?

So you've paid escots? What does this do for you? I'm not judging, I'm just wondering if you feel like this helps at all, or just what your feelings on it are in general.
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