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This is a discussion on "A permanent solution to a temporary problem." within the Suicide forums, part of the Suicide Forums category; Originally Posted by Black Sheep Although I often feel suicidal about it, I agree for OP's case. It sounds like ...

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Old 02-22-16, 06:34 AM   #101
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Although I often feel suicidal about it, I agree for OP's case. It sounds like he has quite a bit going for him even if he doesn't realize it. I think you will find a girl one day, nvm12. Your chances are much better than mine. Having the courage to approach 10 girls is incredible and you should be proud. I doubt I could even approach one.
I'm not really proud of this. 10 girls is nothing. I know guys who have approached hundreds of girls and got rejected every time. Plus I'm 24 now, in a few years I might start balding, so seriously what chances do I have? My chances aren't much really... I've actually started losing hope already.

Anyways, why can't you approach girls?
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Old 02-22-16, 01:54 PM   #102
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Out of all the things you shouldn't be worrying about, add balding to the list. I'm 30 and no where near it, too much hair on my head actually.
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Thank you. I hope my plan works. If it does, then this will at least give me stability in my life. I hope that I do find what I'm looking for when it happens, but like I said I would most likely have lost interest by then. Plus, how come others my age who are also not stable can get it but not me? This is ridiculous and not fair. The thing is that I am very ambitious, and I do talk about those things, in addition to the fact that I'm a musician, but it doesn't seem to work.
OK so with all the information you gave us, my opinion you are fucking awesome and the reason you don't have a girl right now is due to being in a shitty location and extremely bad luck. Take a guy like you and out you in a bigger city after you've hit some milestones and made more money you'll have more women than you know what to do with coming after you! Just keep the faith and hope alive man keep coming in the thread and posting how you feel so you get your feelings out of your head, I believe you'll be aiight.
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Old 02-27-16, 05:12 PM   #104
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Out of all the things you shouldn't be worrying about, add balding to the list. I'm 30 and no where near it, too much hair on my head actually.
I'm no where near it either, but my father started balding at about 26-27, and this scares me to death. Once I start balding, then I can be sure it's game over for me (like it isn't now).

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OK so with all the information you gave us, my opinion you are fucking awesome and the reason you don't have a girl right now is due to being in a shitty location and extremely bad luck. Take a guy like you and out you in a bigger city after you've hit some milestones and made more money you'll have more women than you know what to do with coming after you! Just keep the faith and hope alive man keep coming in the thread and posting how you feel so you get your feelings out of your head, I believe you'll be aiight.
Well, thank you. I only wish the women thought this way sincerely about me. They just say it to me but I don't think they mean it, for obvious reasons. If they meant they would date me.

I honestly doubt it's my location. I seriously don't know what's the explanation for my situation, chances are there's either none, I'm horribly unattractive (even though I look decent), or there's just something seriously wrong with me. And no, I will never know how it feels like to not know what to do with women, since someone who hasn't even kissed a girl by 24 will be damn lucky to have just one woman.

Thank you for your support. People on forums other than the one I post at (which is for people in my situation) are usually not supportive in this case, and fail to understand the issue. But you seem to understand it to a degree, so thank you.
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Old 02-29-16, 06:10 AM   #105
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One thing about support: No one will ever understand your problems like you, so just do your best. That's all you can do, that's all anyone can expect from you. Nobody is perfect, despite how they appear to you. People may not have your girl problem, but they have problems that you would never have, its all relative.
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Old 02-29-16, 06:34 AM   #106
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Hi all. I don't usually post here, but I was thinking about this, and I thought this would be the best place to post my thoughts.

People always discourage suicide, and I often read the phrase "Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem." However, I don't think this is true. Sometimes the problem is really permanent, and not at all temporary.

I'm currently feeling this way, and my problem is permanent. I've posted my story when I first registered. Here's a link to the post: https://www.takethislife.com/suicide/...icidal-219129/. Except that now I'll be 24 in less than two weeks. In less than two weeks, I'll be 24 years old with no romantic/sexual experience whatsoever (not even a kiss), and I'm still struggling to know what is wrong with me. In that post I've explained about my situation, and how it's all not by choice.

It simply makes me lose my mind. I'm literally losing my mind, and then they tell me it's temporary. No, no it isn't. I've been this way ever since I started wanting a girlfriend. It's not at all temporary. No person can still be sane after being forced to be alone forever. It's even negatively affecting every other aspect of my life. I have no motivation to do anything anymore, including trying to pursue a partner. Part of it is the fact that I know I'll fail at it. Women don't realize what I want from them, and I end up getting rejected (I've elaborated my problem in the linked post).

I highly doubt you've ever heard of someone my age who doesn't have romantic experience and not by choice. I mean some people choose to be this way, but this is not the case with me. This is something I very much want, yet no girl has ever wanted me, and I'm confident no girl ever will. I seriously spend almost my entire day thinking about this and getting depressed about it and at times so angry that I break stuff.
Hey, I just wanted to address your original post. Sorry, but I didn't bother reading the rest of the thread to see how your progress has been so I might be beating a dead horse here.

I'm here to tell you that you have met your superior on romantic inexperience, me. I'm 25 and have never even so much as had a conversation with a woman outside of relatives, bosses, and teachers. This used to bother me greatly just like you, but suddenly within the past year or so I lost the urge to ever date or have relations with anyone in this way. I'm not sure what it was. Maybe the fact that I'm old now and losing youthful hormones. Whatever the case, my desire for this has been dwindling for quite some time now. My entire life has been devoid of this sort of thing so I guess one eventually grows accustomed to their life's norms. At this point in my life I couldn't imagine having to live like that. Having to put up with someone else in the equation just doesn't make sense for me now. I know this is probably just me. I don't know how you're dealing with this but I do realize that some people have a greater desire for things like this. I have no advice for you other than, if this is really what you want, you need to be sorting out your issues and figuring out what you need to do to change things. I hope whatever happens, it makes you happy.
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Hey, I just wanted to address your original post. Sorry, but I didn't bother reading the rest of the thread to see how your progress has been so I might be beating a dead horse here.

I'm here to tell you that you have met your superior on romantic inexperience, me. I'm 25 and have never even so much as had a conversation with a woman outside of relatives, bosses, and teachers. This used to bother me greatly just like you, but suddenly within the past year or so I lost the urge to ever date or have relations with anyone in this way. I'm not sure what it was. Maybe the fact that I'm old now and losing youthful hormones. Whatever the case, my desire for this has been dwindling for quite some time now. My entire life has been devoid of this sort of thing so I guess one eventually grows accustomed to their life's norms. At this point in my life I couldn't imagine having to live like that. Having to put up with someone else in the equation just doesn't make sense for me now. I know this is probably just me. I don't know how you're dealing with this but I do realize that some people have a greater desire for things like this. I have no advice for you other than, if this is really what you want, you need to be sorting out your issues and figuring out what you need to do to change things. I hope whatever happens, it makes you happy.
Sorry for my late reply. You didn't miss much. The only "progress" I made was turn 24 since posting this thread.

I'm glad you could relate, I'm happy there are others like me. Though it really sucks to never experience this sort of thing... It's not fair.

The thing is that I don't believe there is anything wrong with me as a person, so there's really not much to change or sort out, except get a job and move out at some point. This is what's driving me crazy, is that I can't figure out what's wrong with me that I'm this way.

Thank you for your reply. By the way, if you want, I can direct you to the forum I post at for people like us. I've found much support there, and everyone there will understand your struggle. So if you wish to join, let me know. (I wanted to send this as a PM, but couldn't find a PM function here)

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