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This is a discussion on not doing to good right now... within the Suicide forums, part of the Suicide Forums category; sandie I totally agree with you that it isn't easy to tell parents or counselors, friends or anyone. It isn't ...

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Old 06-30-06, 10:30 PM   #11
 
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sandie

I totally agree with you that it isn't easy to tell parents or counselors, friends or anyone. It isn't easy...but it is possible and certainly worth the try.

And maybe using the sentence that you suggested would be the best way to do it - sure would be better than beating around the bush with just talking depression and not the ramifications of it.
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Old 06-30-06, 10:35 PM   #12
 
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IR ... you made me chuckle. i can just imagine it now, "mom, been thinkin of slippin softly into that eternal night ... what would you suggest?" don't mean to make light, but my god, mom's one of those "can't see the person in the child; can only see the ache and pain and my need to make that ache and pain go away now now now" ... mom, i don't need advice. i need someone to hear me ... thanks, IR. man, wish you were my mom.
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Old 06-30-06, 10:37 PM   #13
 
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well - you are here and that is how you are coping for tonight:) yeah for you!!

i so agree that it is strange that we can bare our souls to total strangers and yet hide ourselves from those closest to us. it is the weirdest thing about human nature, especially when we are troubled.
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Old 06-30-06, 10:39 PM   #14
 
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haha my mom would most likely treat me like i was crazy if i told her i was depressed or wanted to kill myself or wouldnt believe me at all....
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Old 06-30-06, 10:42 PM   #15
 
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it's because those closest to us are usually the ones least able to hear us ... all they hear is their own issues being stirred up by your "confession." oh my god, i have to do something. i have to take action right now or else!!! if only friends and family could show their love in ways that were freeing and not binding.
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Old 06-30-06, 10:45 PM   #16
 
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yea i agree...u know how some people who have a drug problem that also seem to have family members that just treat them like "well they have a problem..there's something wrong with them and they need to be straightened out" thats pretty much how i'd be treated with my depression :(
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You are probably right about that, at least that's how she may react at first. Mom's don't always take their kids seriously right off the bat. Sort of blame it on teenage/young adult angst.

But I can tell you that I learned the hard way to listen (not just the suicide). When my youngest was a sophomore in college, I went to visit him. He was upset about something and I listened and then gave my mom advice and thought it was settled.

A few hours later when we were just sitting around talking, he brought it up. He basically told me that he needed me to listen to what he was saying, not what I thought he was saying. He said I needed to "listen," not just get sorta listen. I got quite a speech from him that night and he was right, I wasn't really listening.

Just wait until you are a parent and your kids say that you don't listen :D
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Old 06-30-06, 10:48 PM   #18
 
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haha yes im sure that will happen to me one day :D
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Old 06-30-06, 10:49 PM   #19
 
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like my mom always told me..."I can only hope so" :shock:
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Old 06-30-06, 10:52 PM   #20
 
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So how are you feeling? Doing ok or still struggling a bit? a lot?
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