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Old 01-15-17, 01:24 PM   #1
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so i've been a NEET for almost 6 years now, doing NOTHING except getting up, getting on the computer to watch videos and play games etc., eating some snacks, then going to bed usually at some ungodly hour (it varies all the time), and repeating the process ad nauseam.
the first few years were okay and i still felt like i had time ahead of me, but now at 22 i feel like i'm trapped and am too far behind to even warrant trying to get out of this mess.
i've never really had any goals or motivations in life, despite being above average intelligence, my autism made me depressed and dysfunctional around other people.
i've also picked up a health problem in my testicles along the way which has ended up giving me chronic pain and atrophying them, leading to low testosterone (yet the doctors all deny this).
assuming i get the health issue under control, what should i even do?
i have no clue, i feel helpless and like i am an overgrown child.. i can't keep going on like this but i also don't know what to do as a depressed autist with no qualifications or anything.
i don't think a forum post is going to save me either, but i'll be happy to be proven wrong.
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Old 02-14-17, 04:57 PM   #2
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A post wont save you but getting out of your own head and asking others for ways to improve yourself is a great start. What I can't help you with is your goals, the best thing to do is jot some ideas/notes down about what you want to achieve, what you want your life to look like then create a plan/achievable realistic goals to get yourself there, there are lots of guides/info out there on goal setting etc which might be useful. Your age isn't important, its not about what you haven't done over the last 22 years its about what your going to do today! So stop beating yourself up, the past is done and gone, don't waste your energy there.

Also sounds like you need to change your habits ie videos and games, this isn't easy but clearly you are already aware that they are not productive ways to spend your time and wont help you get to where you want to, they also make you feel bad about yourself. Set time limits on that stuff or do them in the evening following more productive activities? Let us know how you get on.
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Old 02-14-17, 05:37 PM   #3
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so i've been a NEET for almost 6 years now, doing NOTHING except getting up, getting on the computer to watch videos and play games etc., eating some snacks, then going to bed usually at some ungodly hour (it varies all the time), and repeating the process ad nauseam.
the first few years were okay and i still felt like i had time ahead of me, but now at 22 i feel like i'm trapped and am too far behind to even warrant trying to get out of this mess.
i've never really had any goals or motivations in life, despite being above average intelligence, my autism made me depressed and dysfunctional around other people.
i've also picked up a health problem in my testicles along the way which has ended up giving me chronic pain and atrophying them, leading to low testosterone (yet the doctors all deny this).
assuming i get the health issue under control, what should i even do?
i have no clue, i feel helpless and like i am an overgrown child.. i can't keep going on like this but i also don't know what to do as a depressed autist with no qualifications or anything.
i don't think a forum post is going to save me either, but i'll be happy to be proven wrong.
I can relate somewhat. I'm not autistic or NEET but I haven't had a social life for like 10 years. I go to school and spend most of my free time (which is very scarce nowadays) on solitary activities like video games and TV. I don't have much experience with the outside world and I'm really far behind my peers.

what do you want to do? Or is there anything you feel you need to do?

I was NEET for about a year, then I decided to go back to school and work on getting my driver's license. Tbh I didn't want to and it really sucked, but I'm glad I did it. It opened up doors, allowed me to learn and experience new things, and made me feel slightly more independent and capable. I'm still nowhere near being satisfied with my life, but it's a start I guess. I was only a year younger than you when I started so it's definitely not too late for that kind of crap. Other people I know who were NEET got part-time jobs and focused on developing new hobbies.

I don't know... Just some ideas. I realize this post may be totally useless.
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Old 02-14-17, 05:47 PM   #4
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'I don't know... Just some ideas. I realize this post may be totally useless.'

I know I didn't start the topic but I think your post is definitely helpful because you've been there, and working through it.

I liked what you said about it sucked having to go back and get your license etc but better in the long run. I think breaking your usual habits is such a difficult thing to do.
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Old 02-20-17, 11:31 AM   #5
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why don't you try college? You are not too old for college whatsoever. You may meet a few friends, if not at least you tried. Even just do "life skills" courses. If your not confident as you've been away from it for a while just aim for a low level, just something to keep your mind active - got to look after your brain. Video games just give me migraines.
I am 28 and went back to college. I will be looking for work this summer. But I might also do the life drawing classes as\ I like art. I'm schizoaffective so my social skills in the past ten years have really stagnated and not improved much .
I think you have to get your brain back to thinking again then think about work. There are jobs that don't need amazing communication skills. I have faced so much criticism in some jobs I have done mistaking my shyness for ignorance.
Overall since I left school I have probably not worked for five years cause of my psyche stays and being in between jobs. But I am still hopeful. I want to be a writer. Wy don't you try reading self help books or get into fiction like thrillers, sci -fi or something better than video games
Have you seen a doctor about depression?? You can go on a waiting list for nhs therapy that would help.
You are obviously considering trying work, good for you!
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Old 02-20-17, 01:26 PM   #6
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there's nothing wrong with video games. Christ.
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Old 02-21-17, 09:21 PM   #7
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I did something similar due to mental health issues and I've been working for most of the last 3-4 years. I'm sure you can do it too. Just gotta find some kind of training you might want to pursue. Having a good job where you can make a difference can be a real boon for your self-esteem although it can take a few tries to find that one job.
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Old 02-22-17, 06:51 AM   #8
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Haha I actually like video games but since college been too busy, just been listening to music.

I like old fashioned platform games like Mario, Sonic, Columns, Crash, Spyro, Jak n Daxter, Ratchet and Clank. I did buy a resident evil one the other day. I also got a retro handheld sega megadrive.
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