ok my name is shawn ive been suffering with depasion for about 8 months me and my girlfreind have been together for 13 years and 3 lovely children she left me 5 weeks ago the house is up for sale and i cant get the thought of killing myself out of my head at the moment any advice

Hi Shawn
Welcome to our family. I am sorry to hear you are suffering and hurting so much. Losing the love of your life is very painful, I know.

Shawn, you say you have 3 lovely children, they need you. How do you think they will feel if you kill yourself. My dear friends father killed himself 3 years ago and she is so Messed up still. She drinks too much, cannot make good choices, she blames herself. She is a beautiful , intelligent young women and his death devastated her.

Please, no man or women is worth ending your life for.

I know how painful, your children need you. Have you talked to a professional about this.

More people will be on a bit later to respond to you. Most people are not home yet.
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Talk to us, tell us a bit more about what is happening if you would like to.
We are here to help
Angel

Take it one day at a time.

thanks angel we just seem to grow apart over the last year or so we have our own house she has took most of the things out of it im left with bare esentuells im on anti depresents at the moment but i feel i have nothing left to live for ie lost girlfreind children and house now she wants the car i pay mantenence to her for the children u no what more does she want ive been to her house a few times but to see all the things there what used to be here feels like she is rubbing my nose in it i want to se the kids but it hurts to come back to this house thats nerly empty and got memeries

Sweetie
You may have lost your girlfriend, but you have not lost your children. They need you. Do not take them to the house if it is too painful.

I do not know their ages, but can you take them to a park, to a movie, walk around the mall......I am just guessing not knowing their ages.

Set a time and pick them up at her new house. Have her keep the door open and you can honk and they can come out when you get there. My x did that when he had to get the kids from his X who was nuts and would start a fight when he picked up the kids.

If they do not see you they will feel hurt and confused. They will think you do not love them. This is hard on them to , losing you, there home, family.

I know you are hurting badly. If you cannot see the things you had, do not go in the house.

Take it slow........and easy........this is a shock. It is good you are on temp medication, that means you are seeing someone and that is good. You want to live....you just want the pain to go away. I understand that.

When my X and I split I was in bed in shock for 4 days. However , I did not have kids with him, so I just fell apart.

I will not say that this is going to be easy........but I believe in you and I know you can do this. From what you have written you are one of the good guys, you take care of your kids and that says much about who you are.

WE are here for you.
You will get through this.....one day at a time
angel

shawn - Angel & tiggrr have give some very good advice. It's being able to look into the faces of your childern & know that they need you as ever bit that you need them. It's hard to understand why after so long people leave us, but you've found people here that want to be here for you through this very hard time. Have you tried to talk to your doctor & explain that you're feeling depressed? Maybe also seeing a counselor/therapist, somebody's that local, that might help to add some relief. These are just suggestions. Remember that you're worth so much more & you have your kids to take care of, they need you.

Aries

Just know, Shawn, that there are people here that care. I know that sounds empty compared to losing a great love, but you have not lost all.

Your children love you. They need you to stay alive. I first came to this site because I was suicidal and I have nearly grown kids. I'd been talking suicide for years but finally realized, after reading the posts from folks who'd lost their parents to suicide, how much it would hurt my kids. It would hurt your kids as much or more, because they've already seen the breakup of their parents. Kids blame themselves for things they shouldn't. They would take it really hard if you were to kill yourself. It would destroy their lives and perhaps they'd end up killing themselves.

Please use the meds you've been given, continue seeking counsel and finding comfort here. We, together, will help you make it through this.