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Old 02-03-13, 05:27 PM   #1
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im new to the forum. I've been seriously thinking about taking my life recently. I'm ugly (physically unattractive). All my life I've been picked on because of it. People used to tell me outright that I will never get married and no girl would want me. they have been right. Girls don't talk to me. When I try to make conversation they either ignore me or give me a nasty look and walk away. People at work rub it in the fact that im ugly and alone. I'm also short. I hate every minute of it. I've had tons of cosmetic surgery procedures to try and improve my looks. While I do technically look better than I did pre surgery im still unattractive. Im really thinking about ending my life. I have no friends,can't make any because of my looks. I never have kissed a girl or even felt the love of a woman other than my mother. The only thing that stops me is it would devestate my mother. My dad wouldn't care but it would ruin my loving mother. But im embarrassed with this loser life I live. I dont know what to do. Im turning 30 soon.
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Old 02-03-13, 10:59 PM   #2
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Hey there,

The only ugly people I've ever met in my life were ugly because of how they acted, not how they looked.

I know it's really hard when you're that down on how you look. It took me a few years of concerted effort to be able to look in a mirror without thinking horrible thoughts.

But hanging out with people who are that negative ... actually I'd say abusive ... sounds like it's impossible to make it work at your job, at least. I'm not sure what else to suggest, but maybe find a job where people are at least going to be neutral?

Take care.
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Old 02-03-13, 11:32 PM   #3
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I'm sorry you feel this way. I agree with andrew-- the only people who are really ugly are ugly because of the way they act. I know you won't believe that, but it's honestly the truth. Haven't you ever seen or known what society would deem unattractive people with girlfriends/boyfriends/spouses and families? I strongly believe that there is no one in this world who can't be loved... only people who keep themselves from being loved. Please go a little easier on yourself and don't lose hope. Take care.
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Old 02-04-13, 09:37 AM   #4
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I appreciate your words but the bottom line if ugly is based on physical appearance. I know so many good looking a$$ holes who get a pass for everything. Im cursed to live this lonely life.besides my mother no one loves me. No one cares about me. Im haunted everyday by the fact that my classmates in grade school accurately predicted my entire life.
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Yeah, I know physical appearance matters on a lot of levels. But in terms of who I like? It's not important. In terms of who I love? It's completely not part of the picture.

I don't mean to be be dictatorial, but it sounds like you're in a really unhealthy environment. You actually deserve a lot better. I know that doesn't change anything, but surely you've got to see that a lot of your negative self image stuff is simply being fed by the people around you? It's not actually accurate or realistic.

I dunno- it's a hard place to be and I'm sorry for it. This is gonna sound lame, but hey- I think you need a refuge. Somewhere where it's safe for you to be, where you're not being put down, where you can just actually be without beating yourself up. That made a really big difference for me. I'm sorry if that's a lame suggestion.
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Yeah, I know physical appearance matters on a lot of levels. But in terms of who I like? It's not important. In terms of who I love? It's completely not part of the picture.

I don't mean to be be dictatorial, but it sounds like you're in a really unhealthy environment. You actually deserve a lot better. I know that doesn't change anything, but surely you've got to see that a lot of your negative self image stuff is simply being fed by the people around you? It's not actually accurate or realistic.

I dunno- it's a hard place to be and I'm sorry for it. This is gonna sound lame, but hey- I think you need a refuge. Somewhere where it's safe for you to be, where you're not being put down, where you can just actually be without beating yourself up. That made a really big difference for me. I'm sorry if that's a lame suggestion.
I used to think it was environment but it isn't. Im universally ugly. I've tried to go to school outside my borough or meet new people but it's always the same result . People still react the same. They don't even want to be seen talking to me.
U could put a hard core liberal and conservative in the same room with me and the only thing they would agree on is that im ugly and can't get a gf or a life.
I really hate life and im losing hope. Its something that unless your ugly you will never understand. Physical appearance whether sunconcious or not drive relationships
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Hmmm, actually I spent a significant part of my love 'being ugly.' I was that stumbling kid who needed a hair cut who always looked down when he walked. I felt vile, in terms of myself.

But there was nothing 'universal' about that. There's no objective definition of ugly. I think a lot of people tend to operate in terms of the inner stuff- and I know that sounds lame. But I'd far rather be friends with someone who looked like they'd been in hit the face with a spade who has a good heart than some super model who's an ass hole.

I know getting romantic is different and probably a lot harder. But that's a whole other kettle of fish :=]
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Old 02-04-13, 10:44 PM   #8
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It is impossible to be ugly on the outside. The only people in this world that are ugly, are the people that are ugly on the inside. Love yourself with everything you have, and do things that make you happy.
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It is impossible to be ugly on the outside. The only people in this world that are ugly, are the people that are ugly on the inside. Love yourself with everything you have, and do things that make you happy.

Ugly is on the outside. Inside is personality. I hate being ugly and alone. I have 50 more years of misery
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