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Old 05-24-15, 07:23 PM   #1
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Hi,

Firstly I'd like to explain to anyone that is currently experiencing suicidal thoughts and feelings that there really is light at the end of the tunnel. Right now you may think getting better is impossible, but it isn't.

I've ended up in hospital on more than one occasion, considered various ways to end my life and I've come through it stronger and a much better person. It's an odd sensation when you come out the other side, but you'll never regret that you didn't give up. Life become infinitely better and you suddenly start viewing the world with new eyes. It's like before the experience everything is in standard definition, but when you come out the other side everything is suddenly in HD.

Never ever give up. I am proof that you can and will get better.
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Old 05-25-15, 12:21 PM   #2
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What processes/steps did you take in order to get the clarity you have now? And, if i may, what was the nature of your predicaments?
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Old 05-25-15, 02:21 PM   #3
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Hi Starla,

Thanks for reaching out. I sincerely hope that the following advice is of use.

First a quick bit of background. I first attempted suicide when I was 19. I was in hospital for 3 days.

I'm now 27 and have had several bad episodes, but the last one came only a few months ago. I was determined to end my life. I set a 24 hour countdown, but I didn't do it and I'm so glad I'm still here. I now want to help other people and let them know that it really does get better.

Below is the following steps I took to get better (No specific order)

1. Understand that you are ill. You wouldn't deny you had cancer if you had tumors growing inside you. As cliche as it is, you can't fix a problem until you admit there's a problem.

2. Be open with those closest to you - Talk to your closest friends and family about how you're feeling. Stop trying to put on a brave face. These people would rather you hassled them everyday, rather than you taking your own life. (Some people will never understand suicide, that's ok. You don't need these people in your life. I lost my the woman I thought I was going to marry because of what I went through. But the people that cared about me most were always these).

3. Seek professional help - Seeing a professional really did help. If you can't afford it or it isn't a possibility, there are some very good websites online.

4. Medication - If you had diabetes would you refuse to take insulin? Of course not. If you're not on medication already, I strongly consider this. The first few weeks will be hell, but it is worth it.

5. Stay away from negativity - Stop watching, reading, listening to anything negative. That means the news and any other crap on TV. The same goes for friends and family ho bring you down. Also limit your time on forums. They are a great tool, but unfortunately most of the people are in a very difficult place. It's hard to help each other, when you're all going through the same things.

6. Exercise - Yet another cliche, but it really works. I know when I was at my lowest I had zero energy, but like anything start of small. If you can't get outside (which is another great tip) then jump up and down, dance, have sex, etc. Whatever gets your heart racing.

7. Vent - I had a lot of unresolved anger in me. So I wrote everything down. I mean everything. Most of it was complete crap, but it didn't matter as it was for my eyes only.

8. Keep busy - This is a hard one, but once you stop dwelling, the feelings of suicide slowly seem to disappear. Over the last few months I've engrossed myself in things I always wanted to do, but never had the chance to do. It really is a game changer!!

9. Vitamins - Omega 3 and Vitamin D have really helped me.

10. Stop playing the victim - This is a hard one and I struggled with it at first. Once you get out of victim mode, you're in control. I'm not saying that people feeling sorry for you is bad, but too much of it is bad. Try and find some friends or family that won't let you off the hook. You'll hate these people in the beginning, but in time you'll thank them for dragging you out of bed and moving forward.

9. Never ever give up - It's hard, it's pure hell suffering with these suicidal thoughts and feelings, but like Winston Churchill said "If you're going through hell, keep going". And it's true. If you give up now, you'll never know how much better you could have got, how beautiful life could be and the difference you could have made to this world. I am living proof that you will get better.

I hope that helps
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Old 05-27-15, 03:18 PM   #4
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Hi John,

Thanks for the detailed reply. I'm so happy that you've found your groove. I'm a year younger than you and though I've never attempted, I don't think I've ever felt this frustrated and hopeless.
Exercise-> check
Therapist-> check, (but I don't find myself connecting with them on a deeper level)
The thing about therapy is that you tell someone your inner ailments, it feels so cold to 'disconnect' after an hour, and yeah the price.
Vitamins-> check
Supp meds-> check
Forums-< uncheck this forum makes me feel less isolated on the contrary, I have supportive family but sometimes you need a jury of peers...
I dunno...

But thanks again, so much for honesty and support
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