Closely related to the super-ego or should I say opposed, is shyness.
Often, shyness can prevent people from 'being who they are'.
But when you think about it shyness is not ingrained. You have accepted the label of being shy. It has been reinforced through your experiences with others. Thus you have learned to behave in harmony with the belief that you are shy. So shyness is merely acting out the thoughts or beliefs you have of being different, odd or inferior to other persons. You think
others are making negative judgments of you, that they don’t like you. You think
others are better or more normal than you. You think
things will go all wrong if you try to relate to other people. Then you behave as if all these beliefs were actually true. You expect
things to turn out badly, and they often do—because you tense up and act in harmony with your beliefs.
To appreciate this, consider what usually goes on in the mind. In the presence of others, you start to think inwardly, wondering what they think of you, how to control their impressions. You think negatively about yourself—how unpleasant it is, how you can get out of the situation. Unsure of yourself, you speak softly, if at all. You shun eye contact and avoid taking action—all of this because you are very self-conscious. You lack confidence in yourself; you think yourself inferior.
But in reality that does not mean you are inferior, or that others think you are.