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Old 03-05-21, 03:11 PM   #31
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Whatever happens, it's not your fault.

You certainly can't be held responsible for another person's actions, but even if you could be, your refusal to be silent about it will act as a deterrent not just for the man who did it, but for others who see the example set.

I think there's more to it than that he's just going to get away with it. Even the threat of jail, however brief, could actually be a wake up call that people who feel these inclinations need to get therapy or do whatever is needed to be done to not hurt someone ever again. But even if it isn't, and he chooses to do it again, it could very well be regardless of what you do or do not do, and either way that's his own fault.
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Old 03-05-21, 10:28 PM   #32
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Thanks for your message

Yes, I don't think he will ever go to jail. And it's not something that makes me feel very good. Thanks for the advice.
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Old 03-05-21, 11:26 PM   #33
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I imagine this would be quite frustrating for you :/

I'm not sure what the standards of proof are where you live, nor what the evidence you have collected is but if it's not enough to convict then this is very unfortunate. However, if your mum isn't giving up yet there may be some hope. But even if there's no legal action there are some important things to keep in mind; although it is a terrible injustice that he's not had action taken against him, it doesn't mean speaking up was all for nothing. If you didn't speak up you wouldn't have received all the help you've had, you wouldn't be getting the therapy you need, and most importantly of all Daniel was going to come back - this means you may have prevented further abuse.

What kind of trouble is your mum getting in? Whatever trouble it might be, I think deep down she cares more for your safety. If Daniel came back and continued to do the things he did, for one it would make you feel terrible, but the longer it went on the sadder your mum would have been once she found out what was happening. Speaking out has, at least to an extent, minimised the damage the man has done to you and minimised the damage he's done to your mum emotionally via his actions.

I know it's tough, but remember that you are loved and that there are people who care about you
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Old 03-08-21, 10:15 AM   #34
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I think you are right, it is still very frustrating, many people around me surely believe that I told lies.

At least he is not coming back. The problem is that, I'm sure I'm going to find him often after quarantine, he works near my school.

My mom is very frustrated too, she cries and drinks a lot. Also her reputation is in danger, many people where I live, when a situation like this occurs and it is not possible to verify if it was real in a legal way, they say "he ruined an honorable man" someone already told me that.

Thanks for the words, they were hopeful. :)
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Old 03-11-21, 05:53 PM   #35
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Before quarantine did you have to walk home from school? Maybe it would be worth telling the teacher you trust what has happened, if he hasn't already heard, so he can keep an eye out and help make sure you are safe in the area.

I can understand why she'd be sad, this would have been tough on everyone. It's a shame that his actions made your mum feel like this, but at least you are trying to move forwards.

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Old 03-16-21, 04:43 PM   #36
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Yes, I usually walk to my school, it's not that far.

It is a good idea! I will ask him if he can supervise each time I return home.

Yes, I hope we get through this :)
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Old 03-16-21, 05:10 PM   #37
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Something just happened that never happened to me before.

I was in my room and suddenly I heard a man's voice. It was my uncle Marco and he was telling me to come out of my room to say hello but in a stupid way, I thought his voice belonged to Daniel.

I was very scared but I couldn't scream. It was like my body was a heavy bag of cement, I started to feel as if the walls were getting smaller, I don't know what happened anymore. From one moment to the next I woke up with my mother next to my bed.

I know it's stupid but I had such a panic.

That was an hour or so ago. I keep shaking and I can't stop biting my nails.

I don't want to see him again.
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Old 03-17-21, 11:20 AM   #38
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Sudden noises can trigger post traumatic stress and induce panic, definitely.

At least to my uneducated mind, that sounds like what it could have been.

I'm sure he didn't mean to upset you. I think perhaps your mom should let people know not to do that around you, at least until you're at a place where you aren't affected by that sort of thing.
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Ohh I don't really know too much about that subject but I guess you're right.

I would be a little ashamed to say that to my mother, she will feel sorry for me. And she's going through a lot, I'd feel selfish if I made my own problems so big that she could feel overwhelmed.
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Old 03-17-21, 07:23 PM   #40
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I suppose that depends on you.

If you think you can deal with that sort of thing on your own, you're probably right. But asking for help, if not from your mother than from someone else or even someone more qualified, shouldn't be frowned upon either. It's generally easier when you have that support.
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