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Old 01-08-14, 10:42 PM   #1
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I'd like to hear how people manage obstacles that might come from scars or evidence of self harm.


I personally struggle to find comfort thinking about it and lack experience still..
I know someone had some me before to make a joke in response. I can see it appropriate sometimes, but I dont know what if my family asks or someone asks and I want to make a good impression.

I have hidden it and its rarely come up.
I have been asked and lied and only once I was truthful. I said "Can't you tell?" I had to explain further in detail.
I've never had much luck talking about it because I don't understand.

I've gotten to a point where there is a lot of evidence of self harm and scars everywhere.
Sometimes I feel like I don't have a future because of it, but I know some people understand.

and im sorry I havnt read many other threads and can't help others, but thats just how it is.
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Old 01-08-14, 10:44 PM   #2
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I'm a little afraid to look at other threads.

I sympathize with many of you though I'm sure. I'd never wish this discomfort on anyone.
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Old 01-28-14, 10:43 AM   #3
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I kinda have the same problem. My mom knows I have some scars, but donīt know how many and has never seen them.

Itīs hard for me to imagine how other people would react if they learned my history. Maybe some people would understand and the thing wouldnīt be a problem, but sometimes I think the only kind of person that would truly understand is someone with same experiences.
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I kinda have the same problem. My mom knows I have some scars, but donīt know how many and has never seen them.

Itīs hard for me to imagine how other people would react if they learned my history. Maybe some people would understand and the thing wouldnīt be a problem, but sometimes I think the only kind of person that would truly understand is someone with same experiences.
I feel similar.
PEople never understand when i explain It was self harm..

I have said, "do you ever feel like punching a wall? thats how it is"

it is similar, at least to me.
I keep doing it though.
Idc anymore. No one is really in my life and if i were to let anyone in at this point, theyd likely be accepting of me anyway if i were to build a relationship.

I dont know though.
I keep doing it.

I think the main thing is, I shouldnt be alone.
If i had someone who actually looked at my skin and shared existence with me, I might not feel like doing it.
ill work on fixing my life really, but aside from that IDk what to do to stop cutting.
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Old 02-04-14, 04:32 PM   #5
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I feel similar.
PEople never understand when i explain It was self harm..

I have said, "do you ever feel like punching a wall? thats how it is"

it is similar, at least to me.
I keep doing it though.
Idc anymore. No one is really in my life and if i were to let anyone in at this point, theyd likely be accepting of me anyway if i were to build a relationship.

I dont know though.
I keep doing it.

I think the main thing is, I shouldnt be alone.
If i had someone who actually looked at my skin and shared existence with me, I might not feel like doing it.
ill work on fixing my life really, but aside from that IDk what to do to stop cutting.
Have you thought about why you are doing it? Self harm could be just a symptom of the real issue. In my case, I think, the real problem is my inability to express my self. Thats a problem that has huge effect over my life, and if I want to change my life, I have to learn to communicate with people.

Iīm not saying that this is true to everyone, itīs just an example.
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Have you thought about why you are doing it? Self harm could be just a symptom of the real issue. In my case, I think, the real problem is my inability to express my self. Thats a problem that has huge effect over my life, and if I want to change my life, I have to learn to communicate with people.

Iīm not saying that this is true to everyone, itīs just an example.
maybe this is partially true for me too.
I am terrible at self expression. I used to have creative outlets like recording music or something, but I havnt been motivated/put time aside to do anything like that.

I feel emotions pretty strongly sometimes.

I can do vent out some other way than cutting, but when i get drunk its less easy to control and I've also done so much damage already it makes me less hesitant.


Possibly my self destructive habits in general will lead to a shorter life span, but the direct self harm is pretty unpleasant to deal with.

I just keep hiding it.
idk when ill get the next chance to be open about it and find out what people think.
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I self harmed in places where others couldn't see the scars, {or at the time} the fresh cuts. It was always where my clothes would cover it.
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People usually dont have a negative response to be honest but some people are not so decent like i had a brush with a doctor who basically treated me like skum after i took my jumper of so she could do blood pressure but usually that comes from misunderstanding i still wear jumpers all the time but most people wont treat you negatively and out of them the majority wont even treat you diffrently at all
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Old 09-22-15, 08:34 PM   #9
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I know how you feel, I cover up the burns when possible. It's not so much people asking it's the people staring you can see their eyes lock on and you know what they are looking at. Then everything just goes to shit, and i feel like crawling into a hole. It's hard to explain, or even talk about. I guess I worry people will just think I'm a freak. I been to my doctor for 5 years and he still doesn't know, I guess you just get used to covering up sooner or later, to escape peoples judgement.
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