Being called fat.
Take This Life  

Go Back   Take This Life > Challenges > Mental and Physical Health > Self-Harm


Being called fat.

This is a discussion on Being called fat. within the Self-Harm forums, part of the Mental and Physical Health category; I was visiting relatives for a graduation and whilst helping my aunt decorate, she basically called me fat. She is ...

join us
Reply
 
LinkBack Thread Tools
Old 06-25-13, 02:02 PM   #1
New Member
 
LadyKayArcher's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2013
Posts: 20
My Mood:
Unhappy Being called fat.

I was visiting relatives for a graduation and whilst helping my aunt decorate, she basically called me fat. She is chubby as well, but it was the way she said it that really killed me inside. So when I got home, I wrote "fat" on my arm to remind me what a glutton I am. I never done anything like this before, writing on my arm with something other than a marker, pen, etc. And I am in my 30s. Guess it isnever too late to self harm one's self. I self harmed as a teen but very very rarely and very superficially. But I had such an urge yesterday to self harm. My heart was racing at the thought and I almost backed out. But I didn't. I went through with it. And thinking back, writing on my arm didn't hurt even half as bad as being called "fat." I'm afraid that now I won't be able to stop. There are so many things I feel I need to punish myself for including being fat and being an adult with a celebrity crush to name a few things.
LadyKayArcher is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 06-25-13, 02:21 PM   #2
TTL Bronze Member
 
celery's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2011
Posts: 6,983
Default

Sometimes it seems people well maybe, some people, aren't aware of how much their words hurt others. I know that some have the intent to hurt, but some joke about everything...no harm meant, but no tact.

I am sorry that her words hurt you
__________________
Courage doesn't always roar.
Sometimes courage is the quiet voice
at the end of the day saying,
"I will try again tomorrow."
- Mary Anne Radmacher
celery is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 06-25-13, 04:46 PM   #3
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Jun 2010
Location: Canada
Posts: 4,090
My Mood:
Default

That is mean and hurtful. I'm sorry. I'm overweight also and it hurts when someone makes a comment like that too you. Like I don't know!

Don't let your aunt get you down. She obviously has her own issues about her own weight and I don't think she likes herself either or something. That's just hurtful. Don't let her get you down.
TooMuch is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 06-25-13, 08:14 PM   #4
Member
 
dx2731's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2010
Location: In Australia, I'd rather be in Texas
Posts: 604
My Mood:
Default

Im sorry you were called fat. I am overweight, and was continually taunted for being fat in primary school. Please know that you will be ok. If you nearly backed out, you knew that self harm is negative, maybe when you have the urge again, you will feel stronger and be able to stop. Its okay to be fat, its ok to have celebrity crushes and you should not be ashamed of who you are.
dx2731 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 06-26-13, 03:38 AM   #5
Experienced Member
 
rememberthegirl's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2011
Location: At the Gates of Midian
Posts: 2,057
My Mood:
Default

I know how you feel... I've only very rarely been overweight, but for my entire life my mum has always been on my case about my weight. As soon as I would start to put on a bit of weight, she would make comments about things I was eating and stuff like that. It really hurt me... and from growing up like this, it has given me a massive complex about my weight and my image. It has even resulted in a somewhat self-loathing feeling when I look at myself in the mirror and in photos. I have probably self harmed over this too.

The point of that spiel was that I understand how much those words can hurt. And they cut deep. And I can understand how it would make you want to harm yourself... but as a reformed self-harmer, I can say that you will be able to prevent yourself from doing it again. It is very addictive, I know this, but you need to try and be strong. Focus those thoughts and energy into something more constructive..perhaps go for a walk or do some weights - kill two birds with one stone?


And as for the celebrity crush thing, god if I could count the number of celebrity crushes I have, I'd be rich. Don't punish yourself for such things, it's only natural.
__________________
I'm scared to get close, I hate being alone... I long for that feeling to not feel at all...
rememberthegirl is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 06-26-13, 06:55 PM   #6
New Member
 
LadyKayArcher's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2013
Posts: 20
My Mood:
Default

Thank you all for your encouraging words. :). Maybe I over reacted. My aunt didn't literally say "fat". But the implications were there nonetheless. Somehow my sister saw my arm and berated me for 1/2 hour about it. :(. It is sad when your 16 year old sister has to scold you. She said it was stupid to do.

And about my celebrity crush, I am abnormal about it. Just today I bought two books because they had pictures of him. 'Tis not natural. :(
LadyKayArcher is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 06-26-13, 09:13 PM   #7
Experienced Member
 
rememberthegirl's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2011
Location: At the Gates of Midian
Posts: 2,057
My Mood:
Default

I have a one direction calendar up at work... not because I like their music, but cos i think they are hot haha. believe it, it's natural haha.
__________________
I'm scared to get close, I hate being alone... I long for that feeling to not feel at all...
rememberthegirl is offline   Reply With Quote
Reply

Thread Tools

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are On



All times are GMT -5. The time now is 01:56 PM.


Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.8
Copyright ©2000 - 2021, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
Shoutbox provided by vBShout v6.2.1 (Lite) - vBulletin Mods & Addons Copyright © 2021 DragonByte Technologies Ltd.
vBulletin Security provided by vBSecurity v2.2.2 (Pro) - vBulletin Mods & Addons Copyright © 2021 DragonByte Technologies Ltd.
 

Content Relevant URLs by vBSEO 3.3.2