Small Penis and it's effect on Confidence
Having a small penis like I do (no, not the 5 or 6 inches most guys THINK is small) has destroyed my self confidence and has stunted my chances to get intimate with women. I have what is called a "micropenis"(now THERE's a term to really build your self esteem with).
Those that are well-intentioned point out that more women orgasm by stimulation rather than intercourse. This totally misses the point. It's the effect it has on a man's self confidence, and how being small in that department is embarrassing and makes you ashamed. You feel inferior to other men. The impact of those feelings of insecurity play on your mind.
For instance, there was a girl I was interested in. She was outgoing, talkative, and attractive. All the things I wasn't. But being so shy, and afraid of what her reaction would be if she ever saw how small I was "down there", I never persued her. I was also afraid that she might tell other women or that she might laugh in my face. In fact, most times in my life I shied away from intimacy - even though I was so lonely and wanted and needed that physical contact so badly.
Even though I know I'm a good person, have a good sense of humor, and treat women with respect - traits supposedly attractive to women - I seldom had the nerve to make a move. Oh, I talked to women (especially as I got older) but I seemed never to even realize when she might be attracted to me. I guess I never even considered that she might want to get close. That's how low my self-esteem was (and still is, for that matter).
Shyness and lack of self-confidence are the 2 biggest reasons for my failure with women. I'm 60+ now, never been married, very few girlfriends, and had actual sex with only one woman in my life that wasn't a prostitute. I'm not proud of having sex and paying for it. It's quick gratification, but leaves you feeling worse about yourself and honestly, unfullfilled.
So here's my advice: if you have any of these issues, get help before it's too late. Please! It's AWFUL to be alone. I know this all too well now. Talk to a close friend, talk to a counselor, talk to someone you trust. Don't keep it inside for years and years like I did. It won't turn out well. It might hurt to say something - no one wants to be judged harshly. But if they are truly a friend, maybe they can help. Please try. We all deserve better. The shame I have inside me for being a guy without a girlfriend; for not finding someone that loves me enough to marry me, or even be with me for an extended time, is devestating. I hurt inside so bad I want to cry every day. Please don't end up like me. No one knows the pain and suffering I've had for so, so many years. It's almost unbearable.
I go to parties - alone. I do have good friends, and they have never embarrassed me by asking me why I don't have a girlfriend. I imagine some may think I'm gay. I mean, they never see me with a girl. I don't know. I've had a couple try to set me up with a date, but they didn't go that well because of my shyness and fears. I think now they don't even try - and why should they? They have their OWN lives to worry about. Besides, a guy that can't get a girfriend? Really? What the hell is wrong with you? Well, I'm educated, intelligent, trust-worthy, etc. etc . etc. But the one skill I've never been good at is persuading women. And only I know that the root of my problem is below the belt and the brain cramps that go with it.
Again, I plead with you. Get help! NOW. Don't wait because the day will come like it has for me when life has passed you by. The pounds have been put on, the body doesn't work as well as it did when I was younger, and my "equipment" doesn't work like it used to - not that I got very much use out of it. Don't become the broken down old warhorse I've become. I'm set in my ways now, have basically given up on life (not suicidal, but depressed for sure). I'm going to die alone - and have BEEN dying alone inside for more years than I can count. Good luck. Thanks for reading.