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Old 10-08-16, 03:55 PM   #1
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like really confusing. I mean I'm not a boy anymore. I just turned 20. the days of looking for other guys to tell me the right path is probably over. Everyone I turned to doesnt give me the right advice. and my choices are terrible (like really fucking terrible). I feel like I'm in a stalemate with life or maybe I'm not looking in the right places. I'm shy btw so I haven't really ventured out in the world. I've just been boxing trying to fight my problems. But since my last fight. The problems I face aren't in the ring. Its in life in general. I thought I would be happy winning my last fight. No more regrets. I would finally be redeemed and can move on. The problem with that? Not a thing has changed. I'm less shy atleast, but I'm still sad, trying to figure out what in life would fix me. I feel like the only problem I face in life is talking to people. It seems like its the root of all my sadness. But its not like I'm happy when I'm around others though. But this time I'm going to try to give them a chance. instead of just trying to be alone. Maybe that's what I did wrong?

I'll need to get a job as a starting point. I can't really bury the past. maybe I can forgive the past? worth a shot am I right? and the absolutist logic I have? "I HAVE TO BE PERFECT ALL THE TIME!" yeah I'm going to throw that in the trash. Hey Rorschach was an absolutist and we all know how watchmen ended? I need to think positive about this shit.

The only thing ive never tried was think positively when life had me down
I cant control what others do, but I can control what I think.

Sorry I just brainstormed this but fuck it, I'm super positive right now.
(even though I'm hurt.)

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Old 11-09-16, 10:07 AM   #2
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I think positivity is a step in the right direction. I am also struggeling the last few years and made only little progress. I have social anxiety and problems talking to other people. I have no experience with boxing, but maybe I will try it out to gain more confidence...
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This was my first post on this forum, and so much has happened. I found a new job and met some people. And a bunch of them were jerks. So I found a new job, then cut ties with my family. And picked up a guitar. All in a month
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like really confusing. I mean I'm not a boy anymore. I just turned 20. the days of looking for other guys to tell me the right path is probably over. Everyone I turned to doesnt give me the right advice. and my choices are terrible (like really fucking terrible). I feel like I'm in a stalemate with life or maybe I'm not looking in the right places. I'm shy btw so I haven't really ventured out in the world. I've just been boxing trying to fight my problems. But since my last fight. The problems I face aren't in the ring. Its in life in general. I thought I would be happy winning my last fight. No more regrets. I would finally be redeemed and can move on. The problem with that? Not a thing has changed. I'm less shy atleast, but I'm still sad, trying to figure out what in life would fix me. I feel like the only problem I face in life is talking to people. It seems like its the root of all my sadness. But its not like I'm happy when I'm around others though. But this time I'm going to try to give them a chance. instead of just trying to be alone. Maybe that's what I did wrong?

I'll need to get a job as a starting point. I can't really bury the past. maybe I can forgive the past? worth a shot am I right? and the absolutist logic I have? "I HAVE TO BE PERFECT ALL THE TIME!" yeah I'm going to throw that in the trash. Hey Rorschach was an absolutist and we all know how watchmen ended? I need to think positive about this shit.

The only thing ive never tried was think positively when life had me down
I cant control what others do, but I can control what I think.

Sorry I just brainstormed this but fuck it, I'm super positive right now.
(even though I'm hurt.)

Well first off you don't have to be perfect and you will never be perfect. No one is perfect. Honestly just think when you walk into a room that everyone in that room has has diarrhea at some point. Every person has gotten really sick and thrown up. Every person has had heart break, had to deal with death and had to deal with fears. What are you fears with other people? maybe start there. Is it that you fear you will look stupid in front of someone else? is it because you want to say the right thing to someone else? What is the "right" thing to say to someone anyway? if you say something that doesn't actually represent you as a person, you're just saying it because you think that's what the other person wants to hear is that really you being genuine to yourself?

Anyway, as far as you struggling to talk to people I totally get it. I have been that way most of my life. I have gotten better at it though, and a lot of times I have to think of people in the way I described above to help me get over my anxiety. People are just like me. They have lungs, a beating heart and blood running through their veins. Just because they may have different opinions than me doesn't mean they are any better than me. It also sounds like you need to work on having confidence in yourself. Believing that you are important and you deserve to be heard and have a say in what you do and who you are as a person.
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