I aged rapidly due to physical, mental, and emotional trauma. At first I thought I just looked liked crap...like I hadn't slept in years...but, no, I have gotten the hint out in public enough times that I now appear way older than I did before. I get called ma'am right and left (miss to ma'am in under six months...so basically overnight), and almost never get asked to present id.
To some this might sound like a vanity issue, but trust me it is anything but! I feel like my life force was sucked out of me and that a zombie corpse is what has been left behind. It has seriously been messing with my mind. I have some pretty hardcore depersonalization/derealization issues because of this. It is tough to remember the real me.
I have been wanting for years now to ask one of the many who do not think to id me or think that calling me ma'am makes perfect sense....how old I look to them. My family refuses to tell me...they always attempt to dodge the question. For my own peace of mind I need to finally know what I am truly dealing with.
What would be a nonthreatening way of asking a perfect stranger such a question??