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Old 03-02-10, 10:36 PM   #1
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Lately I have been kind of frustrated thinking about the fact that men and women have so many differences. Since I am a science major, I tend to think of things in the evolutionary sense.. and I just CAN'T understand what the evolutionary advantage is to having so much of a difference in the sexual aspect of the two genders.

Just a warning - This post talks about humans in a very primal sense, so if you don't like thinking about humans as such I would advise that you don't read it. The topic might be a little depressing as well.

Sources: internet articles I remember and personal statements from question and answer websites that I have seen over time.

*** Please tell me if I made too many generalizations; realize that when I say 'average' I am not accounting for the rare exceptions.

1) Emotions vs Visuals

So, starting off.. women need the emotional connection while having sex, right? Okay, I get that.. as a reproducing, social animal women need to have the abilities to genuinely care for their offspring in order to raise them and help them survive.. and I also get that women need to judge their mates to find the best qualities for raising offspring. But why should there be so much emphasis on this in order to reach orgasm, when men can get off on visual aspects alone (porn, etc..)?

2) Timing

I've read the average length of time for a women to reach orgasm is 20 minutes. I've also read that the average male orgasm time is 5 minutes or less (I'm talking strictly going in and out with no breaks). I realize that an animal's evolutionary purpose is to produce offspring. Therefore, I could understand why men would be able to ejaculate so quickly only if they didn't have to "recharge" their libido on average 10-30 minutes afterward..

To me, this doesn't make sense at all. If a man were to impregnate one women (in 5 minutes) and then be able to move onto the next and impregnate her in 5 minutes then I get the evolutionary significance because then he is increasing his chances in producing offspring.

My hypothesis is that it may have been, instead, a way for the man to avoid having sex with the same partner: the woman would not be sexually satisfied (since she needed more time to orgasm), thus the she would be less likely to have sex with the same man. However, I realize that is a bit stupid since a man can SEE and remember who he is having/had sex with, unless he doesn't pay attention to faces and is relying on the woman's decision to avoid him.

3) Thoughts

I'm pretty sure everyone is aware of the differences of the thought process in men and women. It's a tale as old as time and it seems to be a primary cause of relationship problems. I read an article once about the conversational requirements for a man and a woman.I'll type what I remember..

Men typically don't rely on constant vocal reassurance like women do. Instead they like to sit back and stare off into space as a conversation is unfolding. This is where you get the typical problem when a women mistakes the behavior for lack of attention: "are you listening to me?"

Women on the other hand DO need the vocal/physical reassurance, which is why women often make sounds like "uh-huh" and "yeah" with the use of nodding to show their involvement while conversing. Men, however, may be confused when a women does this to them and think of it as an interruption in their conversation or misread it as impatience.

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This post was kind of scatter-brained, but I hope that this it didn't seem too biased. I'm not pointing fingers at any gender, nor am I saying which one is better. I'm simply just trying to make a quick comparison and trying to understand the point. If you read this and haven't realized what gender I am, then yay I succeeded!

To note: I realize that humans, as a species, haven't really been living that long in the evolutionary sense, thus giving us less time to adjust these mechanisms over generations. However, I really was just curious as to what others think about this observation.

Also, if you want, discuss the evolutionary advantage of male nipples! I'm curious to know your thoughts!
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when men can get off on visual aspects alone (porn, etc..)?
Men are much more visual, but I know A LOT of ladies who like porn.

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My hypothesis is that it may have been, instead, a way for the man to avoid having sex with the same partner:
In animals the strongest most dominate male has sex with as many females as possible to pass on his genes, and improve the species...a lot like breeding animals for certain characteristics I guess.

The best description of the differences between men and women I have ever heard is quite simple...it simply states that we...ARE WIRED DIFFERENT. I think those familiar with electrical or mechanical devices will appreciate that statement.
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HA! This post made me laugh. Sorry if that wasn't your intention. I must be a freak of nature then (as I have often been accused of being so). I often get off before my boyfriend does ie. 2 minutes whereas it takes about 45 minutes by myself. Everyone says that he is not good looking but I get VERY aroused seeing him naked (maybe because I had no experience prior to him). I have heard that when a woman orgasms that they get a release of oxytocin which is the bonding hormone which is what makes them so clingy. So I guess if guys don't want to have a clingy girl then he should make sure that she doesn't get off. This will also make sure she doesn't cling. Haha. I forgot the purpose of this post while I was typing this. Sorry.
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