I don't like my looks
I was asked this afternoon if I would be willing to share a picture of myself with someone.
I don't do pictures, I don't do pictures because I don't like the way Ilook.
when I go out and see all these people looking pretty and wearing nice clothes, and smiling, it makes me feel quite small
when people see me they see someone who is in a wheelchair, and they see a disability and they run and hide.
I don't like the way I look. I am not glamerous, I am not beautiful and I suppose I draw attention in the wrong sort of way
sorry I needed to let that out. I feeling triggered this afternoon
anyone else not proud, or happy with their looks
Yes I do. I can relate to your post 100%. I might not be in a wheelchair but I feel physically and mentally disabled with my health problems and I look at others all the time when I'm out, knowing I've aged with pain.
I know not everyone would run from you. Do you have any friends you could talk to about how you feel? Or a therapist?
thanks for the post. good to find someone who can relate
no I don't have any friends (just online), and I am in therapy for other issues.
thank you for checking in
There are people who do not care about you being in a wheelchair. That's superficial. My good friend is disabled and also uses a wheelchair from time to time. She is still an amazing person who I care about deeply. I go through periods of not liking myself too. It's really rough when you start feeling that way. I shake myself out of it by reminding myself to value character and kindness over everything. I also will switch up my look, wear a little makeup. That helps me get out of it. I still relate to your feelings. Idk you but I am sure you are sweet person that many people would love to be friends with. Have you thought that you might be holding yourself back because you don't feel so great about yourself sometimes? I can withdraw when I'm not feeling great.
I wanna give my answer regarding this topic==i used to have a relationship in the U.K with Annette who was diagnosed with COPD=shortage of breath,anxiety attacks,mental issues etc...we had a relationship for over 2 years,we travelled a lot all over the U.K,Scottish Highlands in her van,music festivals,great sex as well..:smile:what i noticed when i wheeled her around in her chair in Tesco,Asda supermarkets or wherever...was the fact when we stopped and talked to people...they always looked in my eyes and seemed to be conscious to talk to her..is that a kind of pity?Annette was very hurt about that and often self pitied herself with that question=why me?can anyone of you relate to he fact that some people look down on wheelchair users??i think thats WRONG:eek:people in a wheelchair are maybe more vulnerable in life but they are extremely sensitive how other people see them in life..
I think its not always about how we look in life...thats a dismorphic issue..i know a lot of people who cant find their way in life and look for answers all the time==well...i do not blame them..i got to deal with intense OCD and sometimes i can't see a solution...but...fact is..i am living my life...don't live life in a void and get influenced by philosopical,psychological,
emotional issues==the game of questions/answers can be a circle of events we got no grip on..i've been there..now i realize why people are WHO they are...or wanna be..it's their own decision and look out...
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