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Andino 10-05-17 08:11 PM

Hey tl,

Thank you for your kind words - I think everyone comes here for a reason and if someone needs to be listened to...

My bike, for four years I parked in same place near my work, safe area no problems. On my birthday (of all days) a heavy rain, somebody tried to take it. Put something, maybe a screwdriver(?) in the ignition trying to force it. Failed but broke something so my key does not go in. It's a Honda 250cc, I so miss riding.

Of the dilemma, loners are more likely to be thinkers, for good or bad. I am a loner and prefer the company of only a few persons when and where necessary. To me it should not be a problem, but we are expected to be social creatures and comfortable being so. This is where mental health and anxieties are misunderstood, taboo and stigmatized.

My view is always that a person should be able to be comfortable being who they want to be without judgement from others, aside from when they enforce their own views upon others (ie judging others themselves).

This of course means you should also be allowed to be mainly a loner as you desire. The best version of you is the one that is comfortable in the situations you want to be in.

tigerlover 10-06-17 02:15 AM

right...musical mood for me..thinking mood=why is it?that people often get into a mood that either makes them happy or unhappy?is life such a circle of events we cannot control?i reckon all of us feel either good or less good in a given daily situation we often have no grip on ourself..they call it the circle of life...we have to make and determine life as we shape it ourself..it is very often a sense of willpower we have to create and feel within our own mind..I had my battles in life and i was always able to make that fist who told me==you are who you are..do not change..but stay WHO you are..and i did...although i must say it's not always easy..i am a free spirit positive thinker...I say what's upon my liver..like it or not..but i will never intentionally hurt anyone in her/his values in life...for that fact life is to precious...my life is giving and taking...very often i realised giving is better then taking..the giver often gets a good feeling within when he can say...I gave..I did not take...i am a rebel against unjustice in this world..and i will stay a rebel until i die...i wish you all LOTS of willpower...learn to make a fist to everything what upsets you...i bet willpower is a force we ALL need in life..life==what you make it,my friends..

tigerlover 10-06-17 05:15 AM

O.K...internet addiction==this is not a simple issue to discuss...what drives us into the internet?in my opinion the internet or an addiction to it can be positive or negative..any addiction has got side affects which we cannot control..
because..well..yes..it's the addiction..if life sucks?is internet addiction the real anwser?I doubt it..to give you an example..I know somebody here in my rave circle of friends..he is on internet from morning until evening..even while working he can't sometimes leave his smartphone alone..why..is it the attention,the kick,curiousity,then follows lack of sleep,no interest in direct social issues exept internet related stuff like you tubes,porn,e mailing etc..i love internet and i am addicted to it for a couple of positive reasons==it's educative,i find out about what's going on in the world which is not always positive(ahah)i used to run a happiness thread in a psychedelic forum and ask people their opinion on life and how to obtain an inner good feeling,not always internet related..but internet gave me the reason to profile my vision on lots of stuff..be it music,friendships,relationships, sex,mental and health issues,travel,tourism..I found these things very interesting,distracting..facebook is a great social medium as well which brings people together,forums the same thing,wikipedia,google search engines bring us knowledge,we do not need to go to a library like in the old days..so that's not a life sucking issue..if life sucks we go for the questions,the why,why not and we seek an answer,a solution..do we find it on the internet..perhaps yes..but very often the more advice we consult the more confused we get,because some answers often contradict eachother in terms of religious,psychological or philosopical issues..I must try to find more inspiration about positive benificial sides of internet use..internet can also have negative issues like bullying,loosing your real self etc..P.S..I am an internet addict

tigerlover 10-06-17 05:51 AM

ah yeah..so...how do we cope with it?modern technology and computer age made us addictive to lots of things..modern life has created stress in a lot of us...we can't cope...life is too hectic..it becomes a problem if an addiction starts ruling your life 24h/24hwe must try ways to find time for ourselves outside thataddictive behaviour..addictions can lead us into stress,confusion,anxiety and guilt feelings..i am addicted to a lot of things...but...I can get an enormous kick driving my motorbike at hig speed on a highwayor for that matter dance my arse away on a rave,either in open air or in a dancehall..addiction is just a term which has got to do with our habits...if we got the willpower to control these(bad?)habits..i bet then we find another us..we have to learn to self analyse ourself and say==this is the limit...I do not cross it..not easy..but try anyway..

tigerlover 10-06-17 06:10 AM

I am very direct in my opinions,postings...but..i do hope you get my point..
addictions..the everlasting question==do i go to far into it?
i am not a nicotine smoker,but i can understand folks who have a crave for it..
a cig can be a release of tension,just like booze,sex,porn,weed or any other stuff..
if we become addicts to internet,machines,games..then we become machines ourselves..ANYTHING exaggerated is bad for our body and mind..point is?how do we control our limits?i grew up in an alcoholic family..in my teen years..I did not see anything else..I thought i was going the wrong way..booze was fun..friends,disco,getting drunk etc..
in my twenties i got sick of seeing my Dad killing his mind with alcohol..too fuckin bad for him really..i went on the road in 1970 and travelled all over until 1975..India overland twice,Europe,West Africa..got married in 77 to an Indian belle..married for 31 years..coalmine..still LOTS of travelling..my wife died in 2008..I found her dead on the couch..she did not gave any sign at all..heart failure..i was a zombie for 1 month,not depressive really..but i lost my lust for life..in 2012 i started going to rave parties..a new addiction=music,the happy smiling peeps,weed,booze again..nowadays i must say i drink,but i am not an addict as such,i watch porn,and i do like the ladies..I feel great..i am like anyone else addicted to internet,not to television,cellphones,games..i think too much of internet is harmful..the moment we feel bad without a cellphone in our hand?when internet starts to rule our daily existence...we all know we cannot escape the www vibes..in all..if i look back at my life..I can say..it was worthwhile living it..and it still is..one fine day..just like anyone else..I'll depart to the eternal hunting fields..i'll meet you all at the corner..and be waiting for some of you..we'll have a chat(ahah)wishing you all the best with addiction or no addictions..
we SHAPE our own life..i always liked to be honest and to the point in what i am saying..
i never beat around the bush,so to speak..

tigerlover 10-11-17 06:06 AM

in my own opinion a good sense of humour is a must in life...a good laugh always has lifted me up in darker days when i lost myself in a bit less positive mood?i am VERY sensitive to words,i hate direct insults or bad words,people who intentionally hurt others with words or actions are so frustrated about themselves sometimes..
life must be lived...I got this crazy tattoo put on my left upper arm which says **if you love the life you live,you will live a life of love**i always tried to love my life,but sometimes it was not so easy really,we all go through good and bad moments in life,fact is life can be a struggle sometimes...i always have been crazy about cats and tigers...i found them very postive and wise animals...my cat Ella pays me a visit from times to times,she can be moody as well at times,cats lead their own life,and are very different then dogs==you cant put 8 cats in front of a sledge to pull it? http://imagizer.imageshack.us/v2/800...911/3Yq4LM.jpg

tigerlover 10-11-17 08:11 AM

i reckon a cigarette addiction is not such an easy thing to deal with..
ANY addiction is wrong if we exaggerate it,or have a struggle to get rid of it..
i wll never judge anyone about her/his addictions...i will if they get very harmfull towards themselves and to others...let me tell you all this about fags...a cigarette addiction can be very intense and very difficult to get rid off..
i will never tell anyone to quit smoking abruptly..it's not possible at all..
reducing the amount is possible,but mostly an heavy addicted smoker will do her/his best to do so..but will easily relapse to what amount they smoked before..i was a heavy smoker in my teen years=the non filter type of fags=over here we had brands like Johnson Blue,Green Michel,Gauloise,Belga,Bastos,Camel etc..i stopped smoking at age 19..funny enough it involved a bet for a crat of beer..we were funny dudes in my teen years..they asked me=if you can not smoke for 1 month..you'll get a crat of beer..it was only the fact that they could control that in the pub or disco..but i really dedicated my willpower to stop,because my Dad smoked more the 1 packet a day..he was coughing like a dog whole day and night(ah)my friends used to tease me..want a cig?at that moment the craving is mostly the worst..since then i NEVER smoked a fag anymore up till today..no..I am lying..I smoked a fag few years ago to tease my ex U.K girl friend..she was a heavy smoker..although she had COPD..she could never stop..patch,sticker,chewing gum etc..nothing helpedit's bloody hard to quit smoking if one is really addicted to it..it's perhaps unhealthy..but there are so many things which are unhealthy..I am from the generation sex,drugs and rock and roll..i do smoke weed occasionally..I buy few grams and smoke it at home..on gigs or raves friends offer me to puff along..i am never gonna be a weed addict..i tolerate smokers,drug users etc..because i am not very to the point myself...I am certainly not a saint..i do not judge..i mean..I do not see harm in fags on condition you do not smoke 1 packet a day..unless one starts having lung problems etc..coughing..the craving for a fag is too difficult to withstand in my opinion..i think it's a stress relief factor for lots of people,me reckons?and also the adrenaline/dopamine factor perhaps?


Brainstorm 04-17-18 01:53 AM

You are fine the way you are :)

Well, Mark Hollis from Talk Talk was addicted to heroin for a while, so there you go?
Ever listened to their "Spiirit of Eden" album? Amazing work.

tigerlover 04-17-18 06:18 AM

Thanks for your input in my thread,brainstorm...about Talk Talk i know this album Spirit of Eden(1988)I listened to 2 tracks only=desire and the rainbow..i did not know that Hollis was on heroin,i like their music because i find it different music with long instrumental intros almost like space rock...my thread went about anxiety,anger etc...for me there are 3 things in life which make me cope with myself,others and the world==music,travelling and sex..not necessarily in that order(ahah)there are other important things as well in my list of living the way i see life....

tigerlover 06-11-18 07:17 AM

don't we all get angry sometimes???and how do we deal with our anger??
the reason why i get angry at myself or others=i hate injustice and as a matter of fact i feel powerless to fight it,some people find themself in a depression and the result is anger,even suicidal thinking:eek: other people get angry in order to gain control over certain situations in their life,it can develop into a superiority complex because we see everybody else as a feeling of getting at us to manipulate,dominate or bully us?if anger becomes a negative issue then we have to try to eliminate that negativity because it can lead to pessimism or even depression..let me tell you how i deal with my anger==in the first place i feel the symptoms within myself==distrust,insecurity etc...do i get angry because i cannot control a situation in my life?anger aimed at myself for being powerless in a given situation may intermingle with anger at someone elses anger as a way to achieve the very power i do lack,if i recognize someone's anger i try to find a reason for their anger and i try to discuss it with them without causing harm,because that would even increase their anger feelings...
answering anger with my own anger would only have very negative effects in my opinion,is it not?anger got a reason,a trigger issue which makes us angry in the first place and very often we cannot deal with it,maybe a therapist knows the answer?i often have been at daggers with my gf because we had different points of view on philosophy or psychological issues about ourselves...but i am a fellow who can admit...oh...i was wrong,sorry it hurted your feelings and an apology is welcome then..we should all learn to express our anger into words,not easy,but it is do-able..fear is often a deeper way of feeling or getting angry...the one who fears is in turmoil with her/his own mind and way of thinking..anger is an emotion just like pain/suffering/joy or pleasure...so we have to find solutions...this is my 2 cents on anger..maybe you agree or disagree...i am looking forward to read your answers...:smile:

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