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Old 05-04-13, 05:31 PM   #1
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This is something which really does annoy me.

My grandmother lives here and is in her mid 70's. To cut it short and just go into facts shes a smoker and for the last year or 2 has been vomiting every single day for the last 2 or 3 years.

Its at least 2 or 3 vomits per day. It always starts with coughing and then the coughing suddenly turns to gags and before you know it shes running to the sink to vomit.

At night time she sleeps with a bucket next to her bed and fills it with puke near enough every night.

She wont go to the dr which is probably because shes too scared.

I asked to dr about it who said nobody can force her to go.

I asked some family who never bother with us if they could try and make her go... They persuaded her to go but she played it down and convinced them and the dr that im overreacting and shes fine.

I know something is up as over that time shes been getting frailer which isnt a surprise with all that vomiting. Also its not normal for someone to vomit every single day.

If there is something badly wrong and it turns out to be fatal then I just won't be able to forgive her as its not just her who shes harming... My mother has parkinsons as I mentioned before and she relies on my grandmother for the intimate parts of her care. If my grandmother wasnt around (and it could of been prevented) then it means my mother will have some random stranger carer doing all that for her or worse still will be put in a care home earlier than she would otherwise.

It's horrid here as well with her vomiting every day because the vomiting happens suddenly so she could end up being sick on plates I eat off or clothes I wear. I have to use my own plates that stay in my room to avoid vomit on them
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sounds like she needs a doctor, but if she is like not senile or whatever, you really can't force her to go.. did you ask her why she doesn't want to go?? maybe she is afraid it's something serious?? like denial in a way?? or idk.. or maybe she is like doesn't care?? think you should try to have a talk with her and see if you can figure out why..

and idk.. vomit is really only like food and stomach acid.. it will wash off.. so try not to worry too much..
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Old 05-04-13, 06:54 PM   #3
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I find as people get older the more stubborn they become. My grandmother was one of those and it took a very bad fall and a trip to the ER for her to start being concercend about her health. Unfortunaltey she was in her late 80s and had a terminal illness that she never knew she had. No matter how much all the grandkids and her own kids tiried to get her to a doctor she wouldn't go.

I'm sorry that I have no advice, just wanted you to know that I know how you feel, and that hopefully someone can get through to her to get her to a doc.
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Thanks both, nice to hear some views on it.

I this stubbornness is definitely the main issue with her as well as perhaps worry about what could be wrong.

She doesnt talk to me that much, for a while we drifted because of her attitude... she always thinks shes right and if you don't agree with her then you are in for a falling out.

When I did say to her about it before about how she really needs to get it checked out, her reply was "I know, I will one day"... but that one day never comes.

I agree NoPointLying, it does seem stubbornness runs with older people.

It looks like I will just have to keep trying to get her to go (probably in vain). You can tell though that if I did get her to go, she would lie to the dr and tell them a pack of lies to make it seem not half as bad as it is like shes only sick after eating hot food and its rarely.

Since I started the thread shes been up and to the toilet twice vomiting.


Looking on the internet, apart from cancer theres a few less serious things it could be which can be treated with antibiotics. Makes things worse as it could be 1 of them things but by not getting antibiotics shes putting her life at risk.

When she passes away its gonna be the choice of losing my mother or having even less of a life than im having now so really want her alive as much as possible so the family doesnt crumble to bits
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is she like eating?? like what is she throwing up?? idk.. maybe tell her you are worried and try to convince her to go get checked out???

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I can understand that she is prob terrified to go to the docs. If I was vomiting everyday I be terrified too.

Do you know if she has any health problems prior to this?

Unfortunately you cant make people do anything. Hopefully she will get help.
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Thanks both.

To me it looks like all sorts, sometimes a clear flemmy liquid, other times the full blown vomit. It's becoming more frequent too... twice tonight.

There seems no way to keep on at her, I do say a fair bit about my concerns but she won't have any of it. That time I got distant family members to convince her was just a waste of time because of her playing it down and actually made me look like an over exaggerating idiot (The 1 family member was patronising as hell saying to me "your overreacting, my mother had the same thing and it was a stomach bug", I hardly think spewing every single day for years is a simple upset stomach).

I don't think she had any health problems before... saying that, apart from the time I got the distant family to make her go, she hadnt visited a dr in perhaps 15 years or more.

She tries to hide her sickness too and makes all these crappy excuses. A while back she was out with 1 of her friends, was sick in a bag and said it was because she ate slightly out of date meat that gave her a stomach bug all day, if shes sick at night she will run to the toilet, flush the chain and spew as the toilet is flushing so people think shes just flushing the chain after using the toilet (I'm not thick... especially when puke residue is left in the toilet).

Looks like its as you peeps say, nobody can make her do and all I can do is keep on at her. Just hoping nothing fatal happens to her and they find out there was an underlying problem she could of got sorted because it will screw my head up worse than it already is
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This is really sad to hear, that you have to live with this situation. All 3 of you could use some help with it.

Just throwing up so often is harmful to one's body, no matter what the cause. She may have an automatic reaction to a cough, like an easily-triggered gag response or something that makes her get sick so easily. But she is ill, no matter what she tries to tell anyone.

If I were you I would go talk to a couple of doctors, as well as some seniors help agency, or any social services you can find, for elderly. It doesn't sound like other members of the family are helping. Find someone to explain this whole situation to, that two sick women are in this household and both need help. Depending on where you live, there might be services you are unaware of.

Your mom deserves care from someone who is physically able to provide it. Don't worry about it being a stranger; when you're cared for by an outsider it can actually be a relief.
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