Originally Posted by goldeni007
I know she has been dealing with trust issues and I am worried if I do get closer my mind and words won't mean happiness for her and that I would hurt her heart.
Being honest with her is essential. What is keeping you from doing this? Is it out of fear that you will not bring happiness to one another? There are two possibilities:
1) Being open and honest will help form a deeper connection between both of you and will ultimately be beneficial for your relationship.
2) Being open and honest will reveal that you do not make one another happy, showing that the relationship cannot function.
What if 1) is true? Then fear is holding you back from a happier, better functioning relationship. Fear is holding both of you back from your full potentials.
What if 2) is true? Then the relationship cannot work. What happens if fear is keeping you from discovering this? There are relationships out there for both of you, and instead of finding those you will both be held in a relationship devoid of trust and honesty.
It doesn't matter whether 1) is true, or if 2) is true. In both cases fear is holding you back from a better life. A happier and more meaningful relationship could be waiting for you; it could be with her, or it could be with someone else. Whatever the case may be you need to act in spite of your fear. Both of you have mental health issues and a relationship that is not built on trust and honesty is bad for both of you.