After reading this thread, I want to comment, then I noticed the timeline. This thread has been inactive for over 2 years! What happen to
Heavy need for affection and reassurance
I hope new and existing members will eventually see this post and continue posting on this thread. [
Hello to YOU there!] I think the starting post to this thread makes this the best support page for BPDs in this community.
Let's keep posting our concerns, well wishes, encouragements, and whatnots to help new and current BPD members.
I like to draw attention to a few lines which I, personally, think and feel are important. The first is
Persistent identity disturbance shown by uncertainty in self-image, sexual orientation, career choice or other long-term goals, friendships, values - people with BPD may not feel like they know who they are, or what they think, or what their opinions are, or what religion they should be
The second is
a) Feeling of "needing" someone else to survive
b) Heavy need for affection and reassurance
c) Some people with BPD may have an unusually high degree of interpersonal sensitivity, insight and empathy
With those three traits, someone with BPD could actually reason with oneself and be rid of this *cursed/blessed* personality disorder. Alas, one cannot help oneself because one is one and all alone [I'm not referring to myself, I'm referring to humans in general.] Hence, the saying,
"Behind every great <insert object here> is a <insert supporter of object here>"
~Stress-related paranoid ideation or severe dissociative symptoms
a) Their lives may be a chaotic landscape of job losses, interrupted educational pursuits, broken engagements, hospitalization (thats me)
b) Many have a background of childhood physical, sexual, or emotional abuse or physical/emotional neglect
. Most of us (BPD or BPD-related) have been through these experiences or at least, [if you did not] went through the emotions similar to that of these experiences.
Meaning to say that, BPDs who went through other traumatic events which causes them to have this disorder. If we combined our skills and other supporting factors, we can help those with BPD or BPD-related symptoms. If you are reading this and still don't have the sympathy or the empathy towards BPD, then let me beg you, "Please. Please! PLEASE!
Help your *blessed/cursed* human companions. Do a little kind deed.
As the sayings go, A little kindness goes a long way.
. We will be here only temporary, ease us of our sufferings, lighten our burden.
". [Did that work? Guess I'll have to wait and find out......]
Now for my post. [Ha. Ha..Ha..
You thought that was all I had to say?....Wrong.] To user Lovestory
, I say this, "Thank you for posting a general description of Borderline Personality Disorder!
It will be a big help all those seeking support for BPD. Thanks!! I would also love to discuss/talk/debate/chat about your issues with you.
[Just look at my preposterous post!] I could offer some of my insights or a second opinion [unless you already have a second, in that case I'll take a third]".
To user Knox I say "It dosen't matter if you don't have it, you could still offer encouragement to those affected. On that note, wish your mother well for me.".
To user dieing to stay alive, "I can see that once you had the same idea as me to make this thread alive to help others but what happen to the drive? And please tell me your ways you used to cope with BPD when you were in your adolescence. That would be great!
[Obviously, I'm an adolescence]
To user Azriele, I say this, "BPD can very often be confused with Bipolar because they have the same signs and symptoms. However, there are a few distinct features to differentiate both but another problem arises. You've got other Personality Disorders to worry about and several other possible key factors, which I won't mention [for it might cause additional worrying which I have no intention to put you through]. Stay calm and rational though.
To user YouMakeMeSmile, I will say more for reasons which you'll read soon enough, "By the time you read this, you would be 17 years old. An adult in some countries but still a minor in most. I am in same predicament as you. Give or take a few years [I'm not mentioning my definite age as it may arouse prejudice]. I am currently living with parents who are ignorant to these "New Age" disorders. I am torn between dealing with this:- a) openly; tell parents [I don't think I have the courage to], go for a clinical check up, and ...[I can't imagine the future. I'm too scared.]..., b) semi-openly; receiving support from sites like this, willing friends and family members (not including parents or siblings), or c) by myself; do not burden others with MY problems, could lead to less than effective results.
Now, since I'm alike to you [in biological terms], we must or should consider these factors: developing teenager, recent traumatic downfall, peer pressure and/maybe an undetermined cause.
These factors could trigger BPD like signs and symptoms but will subside after you've grown into an adult. I am pretty confident I have BPD or some other type of disorder because I am not alike my many peers. I based my diagnosis on the Wikipedia's article on Borderline Personality Disorder, a survey and understanding from various sources. How was your life for you in the last 2 years since you post this?".
I hope you enjoyed reading this as I have enjoyed writing it.
If not, too bad I like writing long opinionated answers [you should pity my English teachers during examinations]