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This is a discussion on Borderline personality disorder within the Personality Disorders forums, part of the Mental and Physical Health category; Originally Posted by Lovestory Azriele - describe your black and white thinking more. Is it really shifting a lot? Why ...

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Old 04-11-12, 03:33 AM   #11
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Azriele - describe your black and white thinking more. Is it really shifting a lot?
Why you dont wanna consult, I think you should consult it with doctor. It is a great releaf to know.
Eg. everything has to be perfect or it is a failure, things are right or wrong, I am super healthy (eg. food and not drinking alcohol) or I am completely self-destructive and out of control constantly. I change from having empathy for others to resenting or having annoyance towards them, that sort of them. There's never any grey in-between area. Dunno if that makes sense.
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I think I may have this. I'm not sure thought. I'm only 14 soon 15. Do you think I may still have it?
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Hello Everyone.


After reading this thread, I want to comment, then I noticed the timeline. This thread has been inactive for over 2 years! What happen to
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Heavy need for affection and reassurance
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I hope new and existing members will eventually see this post and continue posting on this thread. [ Hello to YOU there!] I think the starting post to this thread makes this the best support page for BPDs in this community. Let's keep posting our concerns, well wishes, encouragements, and whatnots to help new and current BPD members.

I like to draw attention to a few lines which I, personally, think and feel are important. The first is
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Persistent identity disturbance shown by uncertainty in self-image, sexual orientation, career choice or other long-term goals, friendships, values - people with BPD may not feel like they know who they are, or what they think, or what their opinions are, or what religion they should be
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a) Feeling of "needing" someone else to survive
b) Heavy need for affection and reassurance
c) Some people with BPD may have an unusually high degree of interpersonal sensitivity, insight and empathy
With those three traits, someone with BPD could actually reason with oneself and be rid of this *cursed/blessed* personality disorder. Alas, one cannot help oneself because one is one and all alone [I'm not referring to myself, I'm referring to humans in general.] Hence, the saying,
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"Behind every great <insert object here> is a <insert supporter of object here>"
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~Stress-related paranoid ideation or severe dissociative symptoms
a) Their lives may be a chaotic landscape of job losses, interrupted educational pursuits, broken engagements, hospitalization (thats me)
b) Many have a background of childhood physical, sexual, or emotional abuse or physical/emotional neglect
. Most of us (BPD or BPD-related) have been through these experiences or at least, [if you did not] went through the emotions similar to that of these experiences. Meaning to say that, BPDs who went through other traumatic events which causes them to have this disorder. If we combined our skills and other supporting factors, we can help those with BPD or BPD-related symptoms. If you are reading this and still don't have the sympathy or the empathy towards BPD, then let me beg you, "Please. Please! PLEASE! Help your *blessed/cursed* human companions. Do a little kind deed. As the sayings go, A little kindness goes a long way.. We will be here only temporary, ease us of our sufferings, lighten our burden. ". [Did that work? Guess I'll have to wait and find out......]

Now for my post. [Ha. Ha..Ha.. You thought that was all I had to say?....Wrong.] To user Lovestory, I say this, "Thank you for posting a general description of Borderline Personality Disorder! It will be a big help all those seeking support for BPD. Thanks!! I would also love to discuss/talk/debate/chat about your issues with you. [Just look at my preposterous post!] I could offer some of my insights or a second opinion [unless you already have a second, in that case I'll take a third]".
To user Knox I say "It dosen't matter if you don't have it, you could still offer encouragement to those affected. On that note, wish your mother well for me.".
To user dieing to stay alive, "I can see that once you had the same idea as me to make this thread alive to help others but what happen to the drive? And please tell me your ways you used to cope with BPD when you were in your adolescence. That would be great! [Obviously, I'm an adolescence]
To user Azriele, I say this, "BPD can very often be confused with Bipolar because they have the same signs and symptoms. However, there are a few distinct features to differentiate both but another problem arises. You've got other Personality Disorders to worry about and several other possible key factors, which I won't mention [for it might cause additional worrying which I have no intention to put you through]. Stay calm and rational though. ".
To user YouMakeMeSmile, I will say more for reasons which you'll read soon enough, "By the time you read this, you would be 17 years old. An adult in some countries but still a minor in most. I am in same predicament as you. Give or take a few years [I'm not mentioning my definite age as it may arouse prejudice]. I am currently living with parents who are ignorant to these "New Age" disorders. I am torn between dealing with this:- a) openly; tell parents [I don't think I have the courage to], go for a clinical check up, and ...[I can't imagine the future. I'm too scared.]..., b) semi-openly; receiving support from sites like this, willing friends and family members (not including parents or siblings), or c) by myself; do not burden others with MY problems, could lead to less than effective results. Now, since I'm alike to you [in biological terms], we must or should consider these factors: developing teenager, recent traumatic downfall, peer pressure and/maybe an undetermined cause. These factors could trigger BPD like signs and symptoms but will subside after you've grown into an adult. I am pretty confident I have BPD or some other type of disorder because I am not alike my many peers. I based my diagnosis on the Wikipedia's article on Borderline Personality Disorder, a survey and understanding from various sources. How was your life for you in the last 2 years since you post this?".

I hope you enjoyed reading this as I have enjoyed writing it. If not, too bad I like writing long opinionated answers [you should pity my English teachers during examinations] .

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I apologised if there was any mistakes or error in my words and/or judgement on my part.
If I have insulted/offended/dishonoured you, I humbly apologised to you and ask that you point out the discrepancies. I will do my best to rectify them in my next post, should I post another similar to this.

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Dear Members,

Thank you for helping to support each other in regards to Borderline Personality Disorder. You are very welcome to continue sharing things that have helped you and may help others in this thread.

However, if you want to post about yourself and your struggles regarding this topic, please create a new thread in this forum. By creating a new thread to post about your issues you can receive personal support, as members replying to you will focus on helping you with your specific issues. Your post is also more likely to get replies, as members will notice your post and know that you need support. Posting in another member's thread about your own issues may go unnoticed, and it may also bring the thread off-topic so that the original poster does not receive support anymore.

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Noted, Super Moderator Forest.
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Just noticed this and other threads about BPD in this part of forum. I wrote about self diagnosing myself in my journal memoirs if a loner for BPD in the 2010 posts if anyone is interdicted. This thread brought back some painful memories and also good memories of how I've grown since. Its hard to deal with and we are very misunderstood.
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Old 08-24-14, 09:34 PM   #18
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oh wow, i didn't know it. i had most of the points checked. so, am I BPD?
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Old 08-24-14, 09:58 PM   #19
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I had all the points checked except for splitting. I thought about leaving my husband, but when I think about the kids I just couldn't. Sometimes I love him and sometimes I just hate him. Come to think of it, on my previous relationships it was always me who initiated break ups. I was really weird back then. I would be crazy over some guy then after a few days or weeks of our relationship, I would go over from loving him to cannot stand him. I have history with hyperaldosteronism. I had one of my adrenal glands removed a few years ago. I don't know if it was related to my weirdness.

Sorry for any grammatical errors. English is not my main language.
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My "I hate you, don't leave me" stemmed from me hating what my ex did and wanting him to admit it and stop so that we could stay together in a nice relationship. And yes, my early trust has been shattered by people close to me. My parents treated me like I was bad/stupid, and made me feel like I deserved to be picked on in school because I was different. Then my ex treated me the same way, after swearing he wouldn't and understanding or appearing to understand what I said about my parents, and even bringing that up himself.


I have many other of those symptoms too, and was diagnosed with BPD in 2008.


Note that the behaviors listed are related to the feelings, thoughts and experiences listed.
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