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Old 08-22-14, 10:14 AM   #31
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Embrace the good voices.
What do you mean "the good voices", they're all horribly disrespectful.
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Old 08-22-14, 10:18 AM   #32
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Oh, I didn't know that. Well, that I'm not sure of now. I guess your only choice is to embrace them, as best as you can. If talking yourself brings you down, I guess you have no choice. When you entertain them, does it ever change?
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Thanks Clair. I'm not depressed.

Did you learn anything from hearing voices Albatross? Does it serve a good purpose? Do you see them as a gift?

Do you like being a loner?
You ask some hard questions, SensualGirl

I don't see them as a gift, although the cynicism and distrust they bring have been helpful at times. I used to view them as a burden and tried to stop them but as said, it generally made things worse. Now I just see them as another part of me, like my little finger or my urge to eat bacon. They are there and I generally let them get on with it and ignore them most of the time. Sometimes they try to take over but I know the warning signs and have come up with certain ways to stop them. Doesn't work all the time, but mostly I'm okay

Do I like being a loner? I did for 17 years, but I have a very different lifestyle to yours. ( Not judging. In many ways I admire your outlook on relationships with others ) My 'alone' is very alone i.e. no relationships whatsoever, emotional or physical.

I was quite happy and content to be alone, but then 2 1/2 years ago, despite my best efforts, I unintentionally fell in love with someone. Someone who was a liar and user and very emotionally abusive. I realised what was going on so ended it, but unfortunately it woke feelings in me that I haven't had for 17 years and now I can't seem to get rid of them

It's annoying. I won't go into it more, because I was planning on starting a thread about it once I figure out how to put it into words better.

SensualGirl, please don't take any of the things I write as advice. I've just been explaining things that work for me that help me get through life. If you can take something from it that helps you, then good If you can't, then no worries. Also bear in mind that I'm quite likely slightly insane, lol. ( By 'normal' peoples standards )
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^^same here SensualGirl, I'm bat shit LOL
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@Gene - It's entirely possible we are the sane ones and everybody else is mad...
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Well, SensualGirl hasn't replied yet. Funny Albatross, I like that answer. I'll go with that LOL
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I tried both approaches: to let them be there, or to talk to myself. Neither worked. When I let them be there, I compulsively responded to them, which send me on a wild ride. When I talk to myself, it's exhausting and I can't come up with stuff to say. It doesn't come naturally. As soon as I fall silent, the voices and images come rushing back in.

A therapist said distraction. I'm not always distracted though, like when I'm taking a shower or walking. So I came up with mantras for those moments.

I was thinking of turning back to sex, like my girl friend B. I just hope Welbutrin didn't kill my libido, because I hadn't masturbated in three whole weeks and when I finally did it last night, it was just so-so.

I think sex addiction is a good addiction to have. Addiction makes life simpler, you know what you want. For some reason, I need something to hide from people to feel comfortable talking to them. I guess because I have baggage (ie. promiscuity) and I don't trust myself to not announce it, so I need an identity that is so unacceptable (in this case "sex addict") that I will KNOW I can't let people in, besides those who already in my corner as it stands. It might turn me away from smoking cigs or drinking,as I have obsessive compulsive tendencies.

What do you think?
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The thing that worries me most about being a loner is being accused of being rude and unfriendly. Loners are frowned upon for some reason.

I'm thinking of diving into sex.

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My loner lover said I strike him as quiet and only able to relate to people if I have to. But at the core I'm quiet and reflective.

A friend of mine said normal people are dumbshits.

So I'm thinking stick with the plan of being a loner.

Which is better as a loner: letting the thoughts be there and not responding to them, distracting myself, or talking to myself in my head?

I have a feeling that talking to myself in my head will just push the thoughts down and that once I run out of things to say to myself, I will be bombarded by voices.

Idk though, I have some hope about that still.

Thoughts?

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Old 08-23-14, 07:51 PM   #40
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I'm sick of trying to fight these negative daydreams by talking to myself. It's not natural.

So I'm thinking just let the thoughts be there.

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