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Old 08-20-14, 08:10 PM   #1
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I'm starting to like the fact that I have these negative daydreams I think. Maybe they're there to protect me from real life conflict by showing me how people will react if I get too close or open up to them.

A friend of mine said I should just accept the fact that the mind can be weird at times. He said if I try to fight it (for example through talking to myself or distraction) I will never win. Just let the thoughts be there, make room for them. Let them serve a purpose I guess.

What do you think? Are these voices totally pointless?
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Old 08-20-14, 08:33 PM   #2
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I learnt to accept my 'voices' a long time ago ( The parts of my psyche that thinks dark things. ) They are a part of me now, like an old friend. I would miss them if they weren't there.

Trying to fight them usually made things worse.

Accepting them means they can't control me anymore, at least nowhere near as much as they used to.

Is that what you mean?
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Old 08-20-14, 10:24 PM   #3
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Yeah, I think so. I don't know if I can say I would miss the voices if they were gone. I often fervently wish I didn't hear voices. But I think running from them might make it worse. I give up. I guess I'll just learn to live with them and learn from them, learn that if I opened up to people, all hell would break loose.
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What are people's thoughts about this?

I mean, after all, going through these scenarios invokes the same uncomfortable, saddening, angry feelings that would happen if it was real life. So it makes an otherwise glorious day fucked up.

But maybe if I let them run wild, and just allow them to be there, idk...
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Im sorry, im really not on here much so i need some clarification if thats ok? when you say 'voices' are we talking hallucinations? or is it more just a dark/strange part of your mind?
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Old 08-20-14, 10:52 PM   #6
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I'm talking about negative daydreams, daymares, mental movies that pan out in my mind all the time. For example, earlier today I saw one of them slap me across the face for calling myself a loner. He said I was just trying to be cool.
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Ok, thanks for clarification, I think understand what you mean a bit better now. I asked because i recently went through an episode with psychotic symptoms and i wondered if it was that kind of stuff or if it was more of a mental imagery type thing because i think the two are very different. I think whether or not you embrace or try distractions really depends on how distressed its making you. for myself id previously struggled with the mental movie sort of thing and i chose to accept it as part of my depression but use distraction/other techniques to get out of distressing ones. when i started having hallucinations that was massivly out of even the tiniest amount of my control and was really scary so if thats what we were talking about my only advise would be to go to a dr.
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I try so often to distract myself but they just complete intrude. It makes me feel alienated and misunderstood. Like I'm trying to read this sex-positive post (finally, a kindred spirit!) but all I keep hearing is "you were a prostitute. That's not sex-positive." I try to explain that I was technically a prostitute for all of one month of my whole life. That does not represent my sex life at all. But they don't listen. They just keep insisting.

What I'm learning from these voices is that if I even THINK about opening up to your average person, I'm completely crazy. I have a co-worker who has five girlfriends but I don't tell him that I have about three boyfriends. Today he called me a nun! LOL, if he only knew. I do LOVE being alone in my spare time and occasionally in the workplace. When I snap back to reality and find myself alone, I feel at peace. So I guess the voices served a purpose.

I think some part of me is naive and trusting or seeks approval and acceptance and kinda wants to fit in. So my psyche keeps putting these movies out there to remind me not to get close. But that doesn't make them less troublesome and completely irritating.
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I think most people seek some sort of approval or acceptance. We all learn at a young age that if you fit in you are less likely to be bullied or be an outcast and have no friends. and dealing with mental health problems you run the risk of being ostracized when you open up. I told my boyfriend, during my psychotic episode that i was having hallucinations and struggling to distinguish reality and un-reality and he didnt talk to me for three weeks and then said he thought we should break up. so im extremely careful with who i tell basically anything too. Most people just dont get really get it.
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Yeah when I tell people I'm schizophrenic (supposedly anyway), they either think I'm lying and making excuses for failure, or they think I'm crazy and everything I say to them after that fact out there is dwindled down to crazy-talk.

Yes people can be incredibly ignorant and ridiculous. I think they're being willfully ignorant. I think they hate to be wrong, have to be right, and just don't care what I have to say.

But what of these negative daydreams?
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