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Old 06-08-07, 10:17 AM   #1
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If you were almost 30 and spent your life so far thinking you couldn't have children and your ex gf gets pregnant (with your baby) but isn't sure she wants to keep it (she might get an abortion) would you want to know about it before she even makes the decision?
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the father of the child certainly has a right to know whats going on...IMO...
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I think you're right Sally. Thanks.
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Mouse, this is a hard one... I would want to know... but then, this is a different person... it might make it harder if you decided to get an abortion, if the father knew... and i think i remember you saying that he wouldnt be a good father... so... its hard...

I guess at some level he has a right to know... still, it'll put a lot of pressure on you... so... i cant leave you with an answer, sorry...

In any case, no matter what you choose, I'll still support you, I'll still believe you're a wonderful person...

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He also believes that he's not able to have children so I think he should know about this just so he's aware that he can have them someday. I'm going to feel guilty no matter what I do and keeping it secret from him would cause more guilt.

I know he's not going to be happy about it, if I choose to terminate. Neither will I. But I think he has the right to know.

But I don't know, I'm not a man. I don't know if men would want to know about it??? I just don't know.
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Mousey I guess at one level I dont know either... I mean I'm not 30, or anything close to it, but I would have thought they would want to know...
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Which is not to say you have to tell him or anything...
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He should know wether he wants to or not. He's got a responsibility to you and the child. And of course, he has a right to know.

I'm sure this has been resolved already, but I just saw it and wanted to respond.
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yes you may feel bad and i think she should keep it. (i have odd views.) but it should be your alls decision not just hers. and it will let you know theres still a chance to have kids
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