Most women are only interested in guys with good looks and money anyways. It's genetics really, guys wanna fuck as many women as possible and women want to use men up. Just how it is.

Sadbuck, that is a tremendously short sighted and overly generalized thing to claim about either gender. Your evaluation sounds a bit jaded.

I really didn't mean it like that. I'm talking about the mindset that popular media encourages in people. In our culture, acting like I mentioned is considered quite normal. The majority of people are like that.

I agree that a lot of our social perceptions match what is produced on TV and other media sources. I mentioned that back earlier in the thread. I think you have it right, that attitudes and actions are heavily influenced and created by our biggest mentor in the USA- the TV. I think there are enough people who want to or do behave that way that it gives the rest of the folks who don't a bad rap.

You guys are right that the media promotes those gender stereotypes-- guys go for the best looking girls, girls for money and/or the "tall handsome ones." But take a look around you. These stereotypes are not only extremely overgeneralized, they're impossible. Most people in the world are NOT 10's. And most people come to terms with that eventually. I know it sounds cliched, but as long as you love yourself and believe in yourself, people WILL find you attractive.

What ARE tens, really? Are they the snobby supermodels? Are they the NICE supermodels? Are they surgically altered or natural? Do they have healthy or unhealthy tans?

No female celebrity or model has ever inspired genuine interest from me. I've never purchased pornography magazines or Maxim top 100 or whatever that thing is. When some teenage girl in high school has leaked pictures on some guy's cell phone, I don't get up to look (even in cases where every other guy in the room has done so). Factor that into how I think when you read the following.

Everyone I've ever been interested in has had something physically attractive about them in my eyes (usually their face), but they aren't tens. They aren't living perfection. Were they so flawlessly sculpted I would not be interested.

The kind of girls that seem to inspire the most attention from younger guys have a blank slate quality to their faces. They don't look or act interesting. In fact, they've probably never said anything worth hearing in their entire lives. People have claimed that this is "hot" and I just get amused.

I suspect it hardly matters. Sure, the most conventionally attractive people might draw your gaze, and people can go on and on about how they're looking for very specific features among the "dating pool" but you don't ultimately choose who you are attracted to, nor do you choose who you fall in love with. There's either love, not love, and pretend love. The only factor that seems to alter this is whether or not you LIKE the person in question, and I have reason to believe that liking someone is entirely to do with their personality in comparison to yours. If you don't like them, you're probably fooling yourself.

You may like someone all you want, but she won't be interested because of zero physical attraction. Guys can easily be attracted even to average-looking (according to society standarts) women , but visa versa- not necessarily. Example -unconfident shy average-looking women can still attract guys but insecure unconfident average-looking men can't. Men can be so desperate eventually they'd date anyone. But women often choose to be alone rathen than date and show up with a guy who's nothing special or/and below average looks. But Isort of understand that. I probably wouldn't date someone like me ,if I was a girl..

Looks don't matter to a lot of females, at least not to me or the ones I know. What really matters to a lot of females is confidence. It goes a lot farther than you would think. Who wants to be around someone who is constantly downing on themselves? I can honestly say it's not about looks or money. But if you're unemployed and living on your mom's couch and refuse to better yourself than I don't think dating should be a priority. ;)

Damn, how did you know? But I'm just about to take steps to change that...

Bearing in mind that it's difficult for a lot of men on this site not to be down on themselves and that the depression is definitely part of the reason there are a lot of single men here who don't want to be single.
(However it is worth mentioning that not wanting to be single isn't a good enough reason to go around asking women at random for a date. That's like guaranteeing a no for yourself unless the woman in question is also desperate, in which case the subsequent relationship will be quite hollow.)

Bravery is one thing that's possible to have momentarily but confidence is an entirely different beast, especially since we lack a lot of things that inspire confidence in a person. It's like an assurement of failure to tell us that confidence is key, really, but at least it puts the blame where it ought to be. On the whole, it's my fault, not yours, that I'm not good enough.

So rather than affect confidence, I'll just be myself, and hope that someday it will be good enough.