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Old 01-11-11, 12:50 PM   #11
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Nothing strange about a guy turning down sex. Despite what society thinks, we don't HAVE to put our penises into any willing orifice that presents itself. And likewise, it's okay to sometimes want to chill out and give it a rest. If it's persistent, that could be a sign of something being wrong (something psychological and/or medical). But yeah. We have just as much a right to say no as the women do.
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Old 01-11-11, 12:58 PM   #12
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Being a board certified Horn Dog...I would never, ever turn down sex from a woman if I found her physically attractive.
I agree there is nothing wrong with doing that if that's what you feel is right, but I don't think I could ever understand it. It would be kind of like having lots of money and never spending it...just keeping in stuffed in your mattress.
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Old 01-11-11, 01:28 PM   #13
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I turned down a few offers back in my drinking days. After x amount of beers, certain things don't work like they should ...
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Old 01-11-11, 02:09 PM   #14
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I turned down one because she was married, and I don't get many offers, so that required some self discipline hehe. I had been drinking as well, and that often leads to a lack of good judgement in my part, but a married women is something I couldn't bring myself to have sex with. I really liked her too.
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Old 01-11-11, 10:29 PM   #15
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Yeah. Quite a bit, but not for lack of interest on my part. At the time it seemed like I was being made sport of. Here comes a pretty girl, wants to talk, wants to dance, wants to know what I am doing at closing time. Bullshit. I didn't buy it for a second. I always told them that no woman as pretty as they were wanted a guy like me, not for real. They would act stunned, open mouthed. So you walk away. Maybe you lost out, but by God you kept your pride.
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At the time it seemed like I was being made sport of. Here comes a pretty girl, wants to talk, wants to dance, wants to know what I am doing at closing time. Bullshit. I didn't buy it for a second.
Heh, I do this too. Maybe it's a bit cynical, but I always suspect something if an attractive girl is showing me more interest than I'm used too.
One started flirting with me, but I quickly saw through her. She did it because she thought I was a nerd, and she needed someone to help her cheat on a test. Sometimes I may turn down what could have been an opportunity, but at least I'm not running around pretty girls like a lost little puppy.
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Old 01-20-11, 04:46 AM   #17
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Just because you're male doesn't mean that you have to say yes to sex every time it's offered to you. I myself turn down sex more often than any other normal man would, and I've been in a committed relationship for over a year. It's okay to not want sex; if you're not in the mood, you're not in the mood. Men may have notorious libidos, but sometimes, we're just not in the mood for it (as shocking as you ladies may find that ).

I personally think it took a lot of control and a lot of self-respect for you to tell her no; you want your first time to be with someone that you're really close to and someone that you care very deeply about. That's what I did and I don't regret it one day. I've heard stories about guys and girls alike who lost their virginities to people they didn't know and never saw again, and it really messed with their heads. You don't want to go down that road. You were smart to think with the head on your shoulders and not the one in your pants.
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Old 01-23-11, 03:20 PM   #18
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I turned it down because it was a close friend, and it would have been awkward between me and her for various reasons. That and the fact that I had sex with someone else the night before and she would have found out sooner or later (said girl being an ex, who the friend knows well). I somewhat, as a lifeform with a penis, regret this decision, but hell, you gotta turn down sex at least once in your life, and I think that was my time :D
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I'm in a long term relationship, Engaged to be precise, I've turned down sex on more than one occasions.
Sex isn't just a meaningless thing, It's a big thing that i beleive should be shared between two people who love each other. Saying that i can fully understand why people do that, Sex is a massive thing for a male. To turn that down based on your moral beleifs is a massive thing, Something you should be proud of. If you've even had one situation where a girl was all over you, you're doing something right, You just need to wait for THE girl, The girl you're comfortable enough with that if any of the countless complications probably running through your head all the time pop up, She'll understand and be patient and caring. I tried to jump into a lustful situation once years ago, It ended badly and i still think about that night, Pure self loathing about how inadequate i felt as a man. That's not what you want, i assure you, You need someone who likes you enough to understand you, Understand that you have very little control over your appendages per se. Someone who will understand and not dismiss you.
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Old 01-30-11, 01:18 AM   #20
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I've had my buddy's women make passes at me and gently ignored it. And, twice, I've gotten a woman in bed but then she goes limp, passive, lays there waiting. Ever seen a cat with a mouse? The cat takes its paw off the mouse and waits for it to move. It's got to move if you want me to jump it.

It's taken me a lifetime to figure sex out. Not just the act, but everything around it, too. The romance, the relationship, the whole thing. And I've taken it off the pedestal. It never belonged up there and it can't bear the burden that's usually placed on it.

Now I'm where Bonnie is; 'Are you ready for a thing called love? I ain't a porcupine, take off the kid gloves.' It's more fun and less scary.
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