I met the guy. (I have a post about him somewhere in the relationships). I liked him a lot, but he very much rushed into sex (of course). And I let that happen, since I liked him more than anybody in the last couple year (I met a lot of people...).
So he couldn't get it up for a minute, that he could, then he lost it....My first reaction was "you don't like me". He said "it's always like that in the beginning".
I prefer to think the problem is not in me but I do have doubts of course.
He has little to no experience in sex (he is younger, I am suspecting, he had maximum 2 women before me in his life). And he told me that he didn't have a problem like this with the girl before me (6 months ago). So that made me think, that it must be me then!
Second time he came (next day), he didn't have a problem. We enjoyed it.
Then couple days later he came and he had a problem again. I tried to play cool, but it is as bad for me as it is bad for him. Because it drops my self esteem and confidence to below zero.
I got mad and told him that he probably don't like me that much. He assured me it was not the case. He managed to get it up, it was super quick. In the morning he couldn't get it up again, though he tried (I pretended I didn't see as if I was sleeping).
I am not seeing him anymore. But it put a serious doubt and a hole in my confidence as a woman (I know some things and have some experience).
I haven't had this problem except for one more guy I was involved with.
The other one, I took my time with. We were actually meeting on and off for almost a year before we had sex. I wanted to feel comfortable and build more connection (essential for women) and when I felt we had it and everything was going smooth leading to the bedroom, he had a hard time getting it up and keeping it up.
There are 2 possible cases.
1) I am kinda intimidating to the guys (could be, I don't know if that's the case) and trying to impress me, they get an anxiety or performance. But I don't want to believe this, because I had another guy in between these two and that one had absolutely no problem there.
I am in a good shape, not best (but may be I am too critical sometimes), very pretty (got a new job in modeling recently), calm and kinda submissive (not dominating or intimidating). So I would think, I am not the problem.
2) both guys are in sports (MMA type). And may be most guys in sports have this problem, since they have a lot of training and pressure and taking all those supplements and stuff (steroids possibly). The one in between them (who didn't have a problem) wasn't in any sports professionally.
What do you guys think?