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Old 07-03-11, 10:03 AM   #1
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I talk to people that say they are insecure, but I really don't think anyone I've talked to is as insecure as I am.

I have about 5 pictures of myself on facebook, and I haven't taken any myself, they're what other people have taken of me. The picture I have right now is really old, and I want to get a new one but every single time I try to take a picture of myself it looks so bad. Every time I look at myself in the mirror I see how ugly I am.

Which (not trying to brag) goes against what a lot of girls say about me.

Also, I'm one of those people that will say "yes, we can hang out, but only if you want to." Because I think that every one is only hanging out with me because I ask them and they're too nice to say no, so they just hang out with me out of pity.

Idk, is this normal?
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Old 07-03-11, 04:25 PM   #2
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I'm pretty sure your normal :) I think everyone has insecurities - some are just better at dealing with them than others...

Even though you've posted this in "male issues" as a girl I can relate to you. People say I am pretty but I often have a hard time of believing it. I am sure I'm just way more analytical of myself than others therefore I can see my imperfections a lot clearer.

I'm really shy because I don't think what I have to say is cool enough or funny enough - I don't believe anyone cares about what I have to say. I think that they're only asking to be polite. Once I have these doubts in my head is hard to think otherwise but I'm learning to ignore them by replacing them with positive thoughts (like "what you think is important"). I heard that if you do this enough you start to believe it, maybe you should try it
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Old 07-03-11, 04:34 PM   #3
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I'm pretty sure your normal :) I think everyone has insecurities - some are just better at dealing with them than others...

Even though you've posted this in "male issues" as a girl I can relate to you. People say I am pretty but I often have a hard time of believing it. I am sure I'm just way more analytical of myself than others therefore I can see my imperfections a lot clearer.

I'm really shy because I don't think what I have to say is cool enough or funny enough - I don't believe anyone cares about what I have to say. I think that they're only asking to be polite. Once I have these doubts in my head is hard to think otherwise but I'm learning to ignore them by replacing them with positive thoughts (like "what you think is important"). I heard that if you do this enough you start to believe it, maybe you should try it
thanks a lot for your reply :)

whenever you take or see a picture of yourself do you see yourself as ugly or see the picture as bad? I seriously can't take a good picture of myself, it's driving me crazy.

but I will keep your advice in mind, thanks. :)
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I'm pretty sure your normal :) I think everyone has insecurities - some are just better at dealing with them than others...
i agree with this, im still insercure about the way i look, i dont feel pretty enough to hang out with girls, i dont like talking to people in case i make a fool of myself so i tend to avoid social gatherings and if i do attend im the person sitting in the corner not saying anything
I dont understand why my partner is with me, im not the best looking person in the world he can do so much better yet he thinks im the most gorgeous girl his layed eyes on
i dont like taking pictures of myself because i either look ugly or very silly
Positive thinking really does work, its the reason why i dont think bad about myself all the time
like instead of thinking 'i look fat in this outfit (im actually not fat), or i look awful today' i think 'this suits me and flatters my figure or i look good today' its hard at first but really pays off with practice :) dont worry what others think about you, the only thing that is important is what you think
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Old 07-03-11, 11:15 PM   #5
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i agree with this, im still insercure about the way i look, i dont feel pretty enough to hang out with girls, i dont like talking to people in case i make a fool of myself so i tend to avoid social gatherings and if i do attend im the person sitting in the corner not saying anything
I dont understand why my partner is with me, im not the best looking person in the world he can do so much better yet he thinks im the most gorgeous girl his layed eyes on
i dont like taking pictures of myself because i either look ugly or very silly
Positive thinking really does work, its the reason why i dont think bad about myself all the time
like instead of thinking 'i look fat in this outfit (im actually not fat), or i look awful today' i think 'this suits me and flatters my figure or i look good today' its hard at first but really pays off with practice :) dont worry what others think about you, the only thing that is important is what you think
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thanks, this helped. :)
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whenever you take or see a picture of yourself do you see yourself as ugly or see the picture as bad? I seriously can't take a good picture of myself, it's driving me crazy.
Yes! I have this problem. I don't really think I'm ugly anymore, I've learnt to like most of my facial features but when I take a picture of myself I always think it looks bad. I don't think it looks like me at all. I also have acne so when I take a picture of myself it seems like all you can see are acne spots and scars. I hate my skin!
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im glad it helped confused :)
i know how frustrating it is to take pictures of yourself and find them all bad, i tend to take pictures that show my good features like my eyes, i take pictures in the light so they stand out more
skin problems can easily be delt with, theres loads of products in the shops to tackle or see your doctor if they dont work
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I'm a bit shy, but it doesn't matter cus there's nothing to me anyway. I'm not sure if I'm ugly. A lot of the time I don't like the way I look, and I suppose if I looked nice, people would take an interest in me, which they don't. I wouldn't really talk to people of my own accord cus I know they'd be waiting for me to go away.
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If there was a good photo of me, I'd be a bit uneasy cus it wouldn't look the way I really look.
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