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Old 02-14-16, 12:47 AM   #1
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My case is a little bit out of the ordinary. I'll try to make it as brief as possible....in 2011 I met this girl on facebook through one of my online friends. Actually, I used to be friends with her cousin on facebook so that's how we got to " meet " each other. We hit it off straight away and started " dating" online. We exchanged letters and gifts, everything seemed pretty genuine. She would call me everyday and we'd talk for hours. The problem was that she lives in Canada- the northernmost part.

This " relationship" ( or whatever you choose to call it ) lasted until 2013 which was when she broke up with me. Okay, I suffered a lot, even tried to win her back but I was able to "move on". Last year I finally got back to college and found myself a job. It seemed that I'd finally got back on my feet after years of depression. I even met a few girls, I ended up hooking up with two of them but, unfortunately, nothing serious developed out of that encounter.

It has dawned on me that I've been a pretty lonely person. So, I've made a huge mistake -- I decided to creep on that Canadian girl on fb. I've found out that she has a boyfriend now, she's in college and seems to be doing pretty well. I got hit by a feeling of jealously and wish that it could have been me with her.

I'm not happy at all, guys. All I want from life is a decent and fun girl to be with. But, I've realized that in a few weeks I will go back to my apartment to be all by myself. I have a few friends and none of them ever have time to do anything together. I have to work so hard because I have screwed up so much already -- I have little time to do anything about my social life.

What do I do? I have reached that point in my life that I am not satisfied being on my own anymore. I crave for company. I am 26 yo and it saddens me that I haven't had a sucessful relationship yet -- other than a few hook-ups here and there. If you have read this far, thank you for your time.
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Old 02-14-16, 06:38 AM   #2
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What do I do? I have reached that point in my life that I am not satisfied being on my own anymore. I crave for company. I am 26 yo and it saddens me that I haven't had a sucessful relationship yet -- other than a few hook-ups here and there. If you have read this far, thank you for your time.
You did have a 2 year relationship even if it ultimately didn't succeed. You would have learned many things along the way. Maybe this time would be better spent getting to know more people and develop friendships. The majority of people I know who have developed successful relationships started out as friends first, rather than 'hook ups'. Are there any clubs or groups you can join for people who share common interests or hobbies? The more social circles you have, the better your chances of meeting someone who you will click with.

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Old 02-14-16, 09:59 AM   #3
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Thank you for the response. I've been thinking about volunteering during the weekends which is when I have some time off. Hopefully, I'll meet more people there.
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Old 06-13-16, 11:29 AM   #4
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I remember posting somewhere a desperate appeal some 10 years ago.


I had my first girlfriend. We were clueless about life. The relationship lasted for 2 years and i almost killed myself in the aftermath. Then i got into a couple of almost emotionlesss relationships. And then.... the worst thing i've ever done:

I "got married" with a girl i only talked to on FB. (She brought all her stuff and we lived my last days on my mothers house. After that i moved with her)

We lived almost everything i believe a person can. And i mean it. She was everything go me. 4 years later it was all ruined. I got bankrupt. Some evil people made me hopelessly indebted (her mother for instance) i was cheated, i cheated back. She almost discovered. Lies and lies. I left that goddamned appartment in that wicked neighborhood i fear ever stepping in again. I almost turned into a homeless.

I started to share an apartment with a dude i met on FB. But then i thought i was recovering


See?? Then i lost my job and everything again, i was hanging with random women (and worried about my ex)


Now i have a fiancee, we met some months ago. She is the woman who tolerates all my insane madness and i love her for ths and many many advantages (honesty mainly) that other women in my life didnt have.


Sometimes i wonder why i "miss" (?) my previous life. I cant understand why would someone miss the evil itself in the shape of a woman. A succubus dressed with the clothes your money buys. Who feeds on your pain and suffering, who silently celebrates as we grieve.... who deceive us just to entertain itself..



Im still poisoned and i know that what i have lost can never be found ( lol, giving ground) but dude... I NEVER HAD THESE THINGS in the first place



What about you? Does life seems too short or too slow ?


And please DO NOT creep on ex, FB. Pictures etc


One thing i learned: delete all pics. Block access for both you and them (the exes)


You will replace her with other girl. Eventually.



Dont beat yourself too much. You are wasting time and effort. Plus there are tons of women around. I know it sounds silly. But if I can come here and say this. So there is hope


One day you will be laughing of this
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