I'll put this in dot point so it's easier:
1. I'm seeing this guy who i really really like and think he's amazing.
2. The first night I met him he was really drunk and said I few things about how he has hooked up with guys in the past.
3. He now says that he just said the above cos he was drunk and was joking. He says a lot of things just jokingly...but why would he say that if he really was straight?
4. His brother is gay (is it genetic?)
5. He's 22 and I'm actually the first girl he's ever slept with. Which I found odd cos he's really good looking and funny and stuff. But he is shy towards girls when he's not drunk lol.
6. Apparently the longest he's ever dated a girl is 3wks.
7. We've only just met basically...and he told me that he loves me. I told him that he doesn't...but maybe he just thinks he does,

Guys, from a male perspective...can you please tell me whether or not you think maybe he could be gay/bisexual/confused? I don't care if he is bisexual and i told him that. I'm so confused. =[

Alright, I'm pretty bad at this type of thing. Considering the longest relationship I've had with a girl has been 5 months. I'm a straight dude that's had more one night stands with women than relationships. It has nothing to do with being afraid of relationships and moreso to do with the fact I'm in a city that works against where I really want to be and where I want to be with the opposite sex...I won't go into that for your sake.

I'm pretty sure the dude is bi-sexual/curious/testing the waters. If he was 100% gay, he wouldn't want anything to do with you other than have you as a friend. but since you've already slept together, it's obvious he has some interest in women. If he was 100% gay, women would do nothing for him...I mean physically and biologically.

He obviously cares for you and probably wants you in his life as a g/f since you're probably the only girl that's really done something for him. HE's probably realizing that.

He said that he messed around with guys cause he was drunk. Well, experience tells me that drunk words equal sober thoughts...so there was probably some truth to the matter.

I wouldn't stress it too much though. Just ride everything out and see where it takes you. It's obvious you don't care about his past sexual experiences so anything from here on in shouldn't phase you unless it's obvious he's with other men/women because that can lead to some dangerous things (STD wise) that's not cool.

Thanks heaps for your advice :) That really helps. I guess I have been/am a bit worried about the fact that maybe he is gay and just pretending to be straight cos that's the "socially acceptable" thing (tho i don't believe that). But yeah if we did sleep together then you are right..he wouldn't be able to go through with that if he was gay.

Guess I've just gotta try and go with the flow with this one....tho that's not so easy for someone with anxiety! Grrr lol.

I'll put this in dot point so it's easier:
1. Of course he is amazing. Who isn't?

2. Past is past, no? everyone has some skeletons in their closet. If you can over look this, than so can he.

3. Some guys try to impress girls by stating that they have been with guys. Some girls think its cool, while others may think its disgusting. Depends on the person. Lets just say that if it was a lie of some sort, than ive heard worse and you shouldn't think too much about it.

4. As far as I know, homosexuality is not genetic. And even if it was, he doesn't sound gay to me.

5. You know what they say... as long as things are kept on the legal side, a person`s age is a relevant as you make of it. I personally don't believe what your his first. It sounds a bit too coughed up to me. Like something he made up on the spot in order to make you feel more important or to make you feel more comfortable, and therefore, forthcoming. After all, you did say that he is shy, no? not to mention that he was drunk. I could be wrong, of course.

6. If I were you, I would look into that. Maybe there`s a good reason for that.

7. He doesn't know you enough to love you. Not yet, at least. I say give the boy a chance, but leave an "opening" for yourself. You know.. just in case he ends up being.. shall we say, less than amazing?

well he may be bi-curious, I am and only had a passing experience once

it's nothing bad - sexuality is not clearly defined as straight/gay/bi/trans - we all have our own definitions of sexuality.

people need to break the stigma of sexuality - just because someone isn't 100% straight, it doesn't mean they are not monogomous. So if he dates a woman this time and then a man another time, so be it.

you are now with him, do what people do to keep together and he'll stay.

Thanks all...and it does turn out that he is quite less than amazing. Very judgmental and shallow in fact. He really hurt me. Oh well...at least it was just 1 week and not 1 month or 1 year haha.