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Old 11-24-10, 12:41 PM   #21
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part true, but there's still the fact that many women still want their men to look like men just as much as they want them to act like men
This is true. But my point was that most women want their men to ACT like men first. That's why you see so many gorgeous women with ugly guys and assholes. You're more likely to "get somewhere" by being comfortable and confident with "girly arms" than being a scaredy-cat with "manly arms."

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Me having confidence? That's some funny shit right there...
Case in point. To take it back to the original post, this attitude is far more likely to be a turnoff to women than "girly arms."
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Old 11-27-10, 02:42 AM   #22
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Right. And 99% of the time, the best bait is *confidence*, not "manly arms." Remember, women *(generally) don't think like guys do. Men (generally) look for visual cues. A physical "type." Women (generally) look for relational cues. An emotional "type." Not to say that men don't look for emotional compatibility, and that women don't look at looks, just that it's generally not the #1 thing. Seriously, work on your personality. Listen to what women here and elsewhere say. Get comfortable with yourself and others, and they'll get comfortable with you.
I think this used to be true to some extent, but not so much any more.
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I was 1/2 way thru reading this thread why I decided to copy/ paste something Pseudo said that summed up some good stuff.

Tithonus beat me to it. However he doubted the truth of it to an extent. I still think Pseudos statement is pretty much mostly accurate. Dolly-babes may be more vocal these days and sometimes seem to be copying the mens outward reactions towards th opp. sex but the mind doesn't change completely OR so quick.

Remember that the brains of both sexes are hardwired over the course of thousands upon thousands of years. It's still true what Pseudo suggests I think. By far. There are differences how men and women behave in the sub-concious concerning their 'sizing up' of potential partners. Every move and thought has SOMETHING to do with the animal urge to reproduce. Some interesting books and vids on this topic.
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It's easy to fall victim to some beliefs about our looks. Easy enough as well to then transform these beliefs into 'one more reason' I'm not on a par with the norm.

I'm a victim of this. Have been for years. It's nearly all in my head. I realize this now and I fight my concepts of how I think things actually are. One may not meet his or her own ideal but most people, if any, completely do. Brag friggin' Pitt hates some part of himself I guarantee it. Tom Cruise feels lousy about his height. The guy you know up the street with the good looks and big muscles agonizes to an extent over SOMETHING you can be sure. It need not be blown up to the extent it becomes crippling however. And people who like us for being us don't care anyway. They'll see stuff in you they like. Being depressed and self-conscious only limits the amount of people this could turn into. Fight that shit! Because that's what these misconceptions are...SHIT. Oops sorry rude word...but that's the fuckin' way it is guys. We don't need to beat ourselves over a goddamn myth.
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Yep. I agree. Even the most apparently confident person has something about themselves they are uncomfortable with. If they don't, they might be a psychopath. But as unsprung says, it is many times just in our heads and other people don't even notice or care. Confidence truly is irresistible and makes our physical weaknesses and faults seem less important - and I believe even sometimes make them appealing. I have a friend who is very scrawny, but he is confident, smart as hell, and not afraid to tell anyone what he thinks. His confidence makes him seem larger than he is and people respect him a great deal. The problem is that we often let our physical issues overwhelm us to the point of defining us, which erodes our confidence making the matter even worse.
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i dont know where the limit goes with girly arms but im not really full of muscles either im more like the slim/athletic guy.
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I think that doing a few pushups when you wake up in the morning for instance would get you a long way. If you remember to do them and follow through with it off course.
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