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Old 02-22-11, 01:26 PM   #1
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Okay to me this is kind of shameful, and soul destroying. I'm 20 years old, just recently had sex for the first time ever (unprotected).

The problem is I only lasted 5-10minutes, to be fair I was a nervous wreck, now I feel like a total let down, as it didn't last long at all. She said she didn't mind. But will it always be just the 5-10minutes or will it gradually get longer??

Please advice needed =(
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Nah it's cool. 5-10 mins is normal, it's just the media and porn that put pressure on men to last longer. Yes if you have sex more frequently you will last longer, but it's not a big deal, Most women will be fine with that time.

If you want the time you spend together to last longer you can always make the foreplay last longer. If she says she doesn't mind then it's ok, she likes you and enjoys the intimate time you spend together.
I lost my V bout 10 years ago and very occasionally I only last a few minutes, sometimes half hour. It really depends on how you feel, stress and other factors will effect your performance.

And 20 is not too old to loose your V, your still young and have another 60 odd years to enjoy sex :)
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I found that switching positions helps too. It gives you time to "cool" off a bit. I'll move from a missionary position to allowing her on top or taking her from behind and then back. Don't be afraid to experiment and find what works for you. I'm sure you will both enjoy it.
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Nah it's cool. 5-10 mins is normal, it's just the media and porn that put pressure on men to last longer. Yes if you have sex more frequently you will last longer, but it's not a big deal, Most women will be fine with that time.

If you want the time you spend together to last longer you can always make the foreplay last longer. If she says she doesn't mind then it's ok, she likes you and enjoys the intimate time you spend together.
I lost my V bout 10 years ago and very occasionally I only last a few minutes, sometimes half hour. It really depends on how you feel, stress and other factors will effect your performance.

And 20 is not too old to loose your V, your still young and have another 60 odd years to enjoy sex :)
Ahhh thank you so much, I was certain it was just me. Peace of mind after your post, thanks again =)
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I found that switching positions helps too. It gives you time to "cool" off a bit. I'll move from a missionary position to allowing her on top or taking her from behind and then back. Don't be afraid to experiment and find what works for you. I'm sure you will both enjoy it.
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Iwouldn't be too worried not for a first time , You may start lasting longer when you feel more comfortable and in control of it and you start to ecplore more , By yes 5-10 min is not bad at all
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from wat i understand, a guys first time is usually like that. the more experienced u get, the longer u can go. my x said sex usually lasted only about 15 or 20 min, but that was a good 5 or 6 yrs ago, now he can go for nearly an hour. just give urself time and let urself learn.
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Seriously wouldn't worry about it man. I'm 20 too. It's just one of those things that's pushed in the media and porn to make you feel inadequate. Sometimes you'll last 5-10 mins sometimes you'll last 40 mins and sometimes you'll last forever and just want to sleep lol. It depends on how your feeling that day, the mood, foreplay etc. So long as you both have fun it doesn't matter right?
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Protip- DO NOT watch porn. It puts this idea in guys heads that they should be some type of sexual superman with a 10" dong that can last for 40 minutes of plowing. 5-10 min ain't bad for a first time- women usually expect a guy that sleeps with them to only last a short time in the begining. Relax, and do a lot of foreplay (like 30-40 min), and you'll blow her mind when it comes to the main event ;)
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5-10 minutes for the first time isn't bad at all, so don't worry AT ALL.

I'll echo 30oddsix's comments above. When I was younger I was a bit obsessive about how long I would last, but the truth is, while you don't want to last less than a minute, too long, and a girl can get bored/frustrated. You are doing fine.
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