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Old 10-04-10, 07:10 AM   #1
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I hope no one makes fun of me for this problem because it reminds me of how much of a pathetic waste of space I am. I can only put this in the Male Issues section so here it goes: For some reason whenever a girl is next to me like sitting next to me on the bus or sitting next to me on a bench or something I can't stop getting an erection. Luckily I've been able to hide it so far but this is really sad. When i sit near girls in class this doesn't happen but it only happens on the bus or other places that aren't in class. For instance on last friday I was sitting by myself on a bench and I must've looked lonely because a girl sat next to me and for some reason and started talking to me asking what my name was, what grade i was in, and if i was shy. Whle she was talking to me I was getting an ercetion but I had my laptop bag on my lap to prevent anyone from seeing. Is there any way to solve this problem because its gonna be difficult to get a girlfriend let alone talk to a girl with this problem
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Old 10-04-10, 09:47 AM   #2
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This is like, the most normal thing in the world...

Just start thinking unpleasant thoughts, like a hairy fat guy with a handlebar moustache, wearing a speedo... *shudders*
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Old 10-04-10, 10:13 AM   #3
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You could wear heavier pants with which it is not obvious unless looked for (and if a girl looks for it, she is not likely to be upset about it).
Then just converse as normally as you can.
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Old 10-04-10, 01:31 PM   #4
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Dont be ashamed of that dude, women would find it more amusing if you couldn't get one.

Get youself a girlfriend and once you start having regular fun with her this problem should settle down...

Peace....
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really nothing to worry about. i think if she notices, just act naturally and ignore it. she'll be only happy to know she has that kind of an effect on you. one thing i don't like is when i notice it by mistake, the guy gives me a kind of punishing look as if it's my fault. i just can't help but notice the erection or him putting his hands in the pockets trying to hide it, etc. i'm trying not to think about it, but when the guy gets all uncomfortable, it makes me feel bad too. so just relax, it'll be easier for both parties.
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How old are you? You sound kinda teenage/young-adult-ish, so this can probably be chalked up to simple anatomy. Guys are at their sexual peaks at around age 18, so our bodies at that age are pretty much pre-programmed to respond that way to almost anything female. It's certainly not unusual or strange or whatever ...

The more difficult aspect is perceptions. One time when I was in college, I was sitting with a bunch of friends at McDonald's, and one of them got a boner and they were making fun of him. Not mean-spirited, but still .. he looked embarrassed. Probably an unpleasant feeling.

How to avoid it? Yeah, it helps to have something in your lap to cover up. Or maybe wear tighter-fitting underwear like briefs or boxer-briefs (works for me). Loose pants are good too. And yeah, thinking of something disgusting can be a perfect boner-kill.

Good luck!

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next time it happens try stick your dick up between your stomach and the waist band on your pants. it hides it real good.
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Try to think it away, like Butintheendsaid, i think about my dad and my stiffy abdicates very quickly.

Its not abnormal by any means, dont get hung up.
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This is a really normal problem that all males go through during adolescence. It's not that there's something wrong with you, it's just that your hormones are going bat-shit nuts right now.

I'm not sure how old you are, but if you're in your mid to late teens, this is gonna happen a lot, and it's really, really normal. I promise that every single male on the face of the earth goes/went through it too.

The whole issue should go away by the time you reach your late teens/early twenties, but in the mean time, one thing that you can do to prevent this little problem from coming up (no pun intended, I assure you) is masturbating.

After a male reaches climax, his brain chemistry changes and his libido dies for a time, and he won't be able to get another erection for a couple hours or so. It should help take care of this little mishap for you. It helped me when I had this issue in school.

If this isn't practical, you could try crossing your legs and focusing on something else, like a movie you saw recently or what you're planning to do after you finish your homework that night. If she starts to strike up a conversation with you, focus on the conversation and do your best to keep it going. Getting rid of an erection can actually be rather easy.

I hope that this was able to help you out somewhat. Don't fret over random erections; that's as common as breathing for a teenage boy. This will go away after a while. Soon it won't happen as often and it'll be fairly easy to control. Take care! And don't worry about it. Every other guy in your school has the same issue. I guarantee it.
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really nothing to worry about. i think if she notices, just act naturally and ignore it. she'll be only happy to know she has that kind of an effect on you. one thing i don't like is when i notice it by mistake, the guy gives me a kind of punishing look as if it's my fault. i just can't help but notice the erection or him putting his hands in the pockets trying to hide it, etc. i'm trying not to think about it, but when the guy gets all uncomfortable, it makes me feel bad too. so just relax, it'll be easier for both parties.
Really I thought that creeps out girls. Becuase at school I'm quiet and pretty shy so I'm afraid that if they notice mine they might think I'm secretly perveted or something
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