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Old 11-20-14, 08:41 PM   #1
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I'm in my last year of high school ... and I've always had a lot of trouble talking to/having relationships with girls. Recently, I've been talking/flirting with this girl a lot. She's kind and beautiful and I think she's incredible, but I don't know how she feels about me. Part of me really wants to tell her how I feel and see if the feeling is reciprocated... and to tell her fairly soon for fear of being put in the infamous "friend zone" and due to the pressure I feel that this may be my last chance with a girl in high school.

But another part of me doesn't want to tell her and I feel stuck. This is because I've struggled with mental illness for a while and it's been really hard on me. Also just recently, I've resorted to some slight self harm when I'm feeling emotional turmoil. I can't seem to identify any specific trigger, but between counseling and medication I'm trying to get myself right altogether.

So my fear is ..... I REALLY want to tell her how I feel and see if this goes anywhere but I'm afraid that if she were to reject me even somewhat harshly ... it could be a trigger to me new found self-harm problem. I don't know what to do. I want to be honest with her about my attraction but I'm also scared to hurt myself (emotionally & physically) more than I already have

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Old 11-21-14, 06:03 AM   #2
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You could maybe invite her for billiard or IDK, something where you could have fun and try to say it spontaneously, since that bad feeling wont pass will you find out the truth, or till you "fall out" of love with her.

Best wishes. I hope you two will get together.
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Old 11-22-14, 06:15 PM   #3
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yeah, you're probably right. thanks brother.
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