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Old 07-08-09, 04:21 PM   #1
 
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I get a lot of shit from friends/friends of friends for not liking sports. Like some people will be having a convo about some college game and ask me about my opinion, then they'll stop and say, "Oh yeah, Tony doesn't watch sports" and ignore me. Same when it comes to cars. Like I'll be with some freinds and we'll run into somebody we knew from high school, but my friends will talk to them about college/some game/what they're driving and just ignore me.

So I'm asking, am I less of a man because I don't have the same interests as most guys? How should I handle these kind of people who judge me and ignore me? I'm aware I need new friend, and If finally going to college fall semester after 3 years of community college and solitude, so hopefully I'll have a real social life.
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Trust me, don't worry about it. Interests don't make a man a man, responsibility does. Also, your friends sound like dicks, don't let them treat you like that.
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No; you just have different interests is all. I only watch (American) football and any type of fighting. Anything else just isn't that entertaining. Hate baseball. Soccer (or football, for the rest of the world), doesn't do anything for me.

And I don't know jack squat about cars. I can only identify Corvettes. Everything else is like a UFO.

I do, however, know a fair bit about Medieval weapons. May not be the most common hobby, but I still think it's pretty cool.

And I agree with lmf; your friends sound like those stereotypical guys whose heads are filled with ground beef. You know; the kind of guys who know every MLB Hall of Famer by heart, but they can't read a book unless it has pictures.

Don't worry; you're not less of a man, you're just a different type of man.
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Thanks for the advice so far!

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Trust me, don't worry about it. Interests don't make a man a man, responsibility does. Also, your friends sound like dicks, don't let them treat you like that.
How would I go about not letting them treat me that way? I've never been very good at standing up for myself.
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Alot of guys are'nt much into sports and cars. In fact, most adult men have only a peripheral interest in these things. They're mostly immature interests. Fun, but not to be taken seriously unless you're doing that for a living. Most men grow out of those obsessions as work and family and education become greater concerns.

There must be other things to talk about beisdes those two things--other reasons they are your friends. Theyr'e wheedling you because they know they can.

College will probably be better for you as you'll meet all kinds of people with varied interests.

I'd just shake it of and try to change the subject. If you can't maybe hang out with the ones who don't make a big deal out of it.

They're mostly fulfillilng a stereotype, which is pretty weak-minded.
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Old 07-12-09, 11:02 PM   #6
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I love sport, I love playing sport. Im not an armchair sportsperson, and I don't really talk that much about it. In other words I don't make a point of talking about it every chance I get.

I have a good mate who is JUST LIKE YOU.
Has NO INTEREST in sport AT ALL.
I first of all couldn't believe it when he told me as I've never met anyone who doesn't like some form of sports or participation. But I think nothing more or nothing less of him because of his interests.

All I know is when him and I go out partying we have a damn great time. And I have no interest in wanting to talk about sport around him, cause I know it'd be like him talking to me about his studies or whatever he does at University, I have no interest.

Hope that helps dude
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Oh and he has no interest in cars either.
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I could not care less about sports or cars. I mean, I dont mind sitting down and watching a football game but its not something that I really feel a need to do. I dont follow players or anything and I know very little about the positions and whatnot. Cars, I just dont really care about. I mean, i wouldnt mind knowing something about cars but i'm much more into computers and such. Like, how fanatic people are about cars i am about computers. I like building them, working on them, random maintenance, all that stuff.

Its just different people like different things. I'm sure you have your own interests and just because your not into the stereotypical "guy" things doesnt mean your any less of a man.
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Me and a lot of my friends have little/no interest. I watch Wimbledon every year and vaguely follow the Premiership. I never take it seriously. As for cars, yes I sometimes think "Oh that looks like a nice car" but I have no knowledge at all nor do I care.

So no, I don't think we are less of men for not caring. Nice username btw :)
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Old 07-17-09, 01:34 PM   #10
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You know, I know plenty of women who like guys who aren't into sports and cars. One of those women being me, to be honest. ^.^ In case you wanted to know that. Perhaps make you feel better, a bit.

Don't worry about it too much. Everyone has different interests, and just because you're not into sports and cars, doesn't make you any less of a man. Like Shadow said, it just makes you a different man. Be happy with your differences in life; it's a good thing.

Your friends sound like a-holes, by the way. I'd suggest just ignoring them and not letting it get to you. When they're treating you like this, find something else to do/someone else to talk to. Just introduce yourself to someone nearby. It's the best way to make new friends.

What sorts of things do you have interest in, if you don't mind my asking? Perhaps you could join some groups the pertain to your interests, and find some friends who you share a passion with that way.

Anyway, long story short, don't worry about what your friends think. It doesn't matter, and it never will. What matters is that you're comfortable with yourself, and what you enjoy.
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