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Old 08-20-10, 03:57 AM   #31
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Why do you want it to die? You have a bad experience with a girl lately, cuz your tone just totally changed from confident and optimistic to depressed and narcisistic. What happened bro?

This threads been pretty good as a collection of good advice, personal stories, and confidence boosters for those who many need that bump. You do need to remember that while this is "your" thread it really belongs to everybody and very well may help someone in a similar situation who stumbles apon it in the future.

Chin up my man.
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Old 08-29-10, 04:47 PM   #32
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I was 25 at the time, and it was frankly quite disappointing. We were both a little drunk and more interested in other people than each other. Not a good start.

I would even go so far as to say that you don't really need love- as long as you're both honest about that and cool with it. You might just find a young woman, preferably a little older and/or more experienced, someone who can walk you through it.

Granted, love makes the whole thing safer and better, or so I'm told.

Regardless, I'd say that the important thing is to find someone you can trust. Talk it through and take some time to get to know her and get comfortable with her.
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Old 09-07-10, 09:49 PM   #33
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i will say this..male or female..no matter who you are with..if they have an issue with you not being with anyone before..then honestly i would say...they dont deserve you..you being a term for everyone here
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Old 09-07-10, 11:32 PM   #34
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some men hold on to their virginity until they are married, and i dont know if gay men can lose virginity from same sex...
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Old 10-16-10, 05:13 PM   #35
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Thanks for the responses from everyone. I have decided that it is not a problem for me to be a virgin, there are other more important matters in life than desperately running out, trying to loose your virginity. If i happen to come across the right girl someday, i might change my mind.
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Old 10-19-10, 03:02 AM   #36
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hey I'm 20, and still a virgin. First post too, so hey everyone. For me, it's just never *happened*.

I think it's partly because I've lacked confidence, and had low self-esteem issues. I generally fluxuate between desperately wanting to have sex, and sort-of wanting to wait until it feels right to have it.

My logic is that i've waited this long, so a little bit longer won't hurt.

I don't think it's that uncommon, althoyugh it certainly seems that way - with all the talk about it, etc. Though I do beleive that some people generally lie about their virginity.

A question for girls on here - this is male issue section, but hopefully you girls read here - how would you personally feel if a guy you were goingto sleep with told you he was a vrigin..? Would you think poorly of him, think he's weird in any way? Because that's the main thing that worries me...
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Old 10-19-10, 05:58 PM   #37
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girls on here are biased....not saying you all dont count BUT with this being a depression forum they know what that is like..

"you are gonna go to college a virgin with all the other losers"
--something a girl told me once

but sex is fewed differently when it comes to males and femalesmany woman prolly wouldnt mind seeing as you are 20 but the issue comes when and if you are mid 20s and still are..not saying there is anything wrong with it..if you are..BUT woman s responses to me would be more...wanting a man who can last and "knows what they are doing"

on the flip side

sex is more than how long it lasts it is about the connection. so if someone you care about..and they really care about you..it wont really matter..casue it is about that itimacy that will bring two of you closer together

so there is two sides of the coin for this issue it isnt just black and white
oh and welcome to the forum
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Old 10-19-10, 06:17 PM   #38
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So if i had sex with a girl who really cared about me and that i cared about as well, would it not matter whether im virgin or not .
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Old 10-24-10, 08:20 PM   #39
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im 20 and also a virgin, and at this point i have completely given up. it's hard enough to live life without thinking about hanging myself all the time, however reading posts like this which have a very similar feel to my life makes me feel normal for the first time in my life. thank you for sharing, and don't give up
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Old 10-25-10, 03:51 AM   #40
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Thanks hypocritical, but don't worry. i had those thoughts as well. But i learned to live with my virginity, and right now i don't regret it. I have learned that there is so much more to life than just sex. And if i am actually going to have sex, it will only be with a really nice girl who loves me, so my first time will be a pleasant experience. In addition to all those people who goes around and screws random people and gets the same bad experience over and over again.
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