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This is a discussion on why so many marriages end? within the Love and Relationships forums, part of the Life's Other Challenges category; im sure you heard the joke...it is said 50% of marriages end in divroce..or you die married so heres hioping ...

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Old 05-20-09, 12:28 AM   #1
 
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im sure you heard the joke...it is said 50% of marriages end in divroce..or you die married so heres hioping you two die..

anyways..why do you think the rate is so high though?

imo opinion it is a few reasons

1) society pressures to be married and have kids by a certain age..so they settle onlyto realize they made a mistake

2) marriage is no longer NEEDED..when our Great grandparents and earliet were young..there parents needed to be together..the men tend the farm and get food..while the woman raise kids and be the home maker..but now it is not that way....there isnt that co-dependatance there once was

now i know there are legitamate reasons like one becomes abusive or cheats etc..or other countless reasons..but this is just general thoughts
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marriage is a legal trap to me, you go in, you have to pay to get out. the way things go nowadays, sometimes people are pressured into marriage, such as 18 year old plus people who want to save their celebicy for marriage. Some young people think it's glamorous or wonderful to get married and they fuck up. Marriage isn't what christianity intended it to be anymore.
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Old 05-20-09, 02:37 AM   #3
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I think marriages end these days
- for good reason when they would have continued in the past due to social stigma attached to divorce
- all too easily when they could be worked out because there is no more social stigma attached to divorce
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The statistic is misleading. How many people do you know that have been married more then once? So you count that as 2 marriages with divorce, or 3, or however many they had, right? What about the people that just get married once and stay married? How many times do you count those? So you see how the statistics can make you think "Everybody" is getting divorced. It is more accurate to say that many people are getting married and divorced more then once... but there are quite a few misrepresented folks who get married only once. To me the question is not how many marriages end in divorce, but how many people are getting divorced and remarried over and over..
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firstly....if you live with someone....and dont marry them...you could be in more financial trouble if you break up...then if you were married...

secondly....I think (yep, my opinion) marriage is no longer a committement to someone you love...it is a fashionable YOU day where you get dressed up...get presents and have a lovely holiday away...it's entered into without considering every aspect of what a marriage is meant to be....through better and worse...

there are situations where abuse (sexually physically and mentally) make it acceptable to divorce (again my opinion) but the main point is to make sure you're marrying someone who you love...who you know....and who you can trust...people dont seem to be considering everything before they tie the knot...either that...or I think it's just the fact that it's so socially acceptable to 'when the going gets tough...throw it out and get a new one' people just start to think 'well...if something goes wrong i can always divorce' so it's kind of....half assed.

after all that is said...I'd like to mention that there has only been 1 divorce in my family....my auntie and uncle...other than that.....no one else...my parents are still very happy together....and I'm certain that if I ever enter into marriage...unless I'm going through any form of abuse performed by my husband...I will stick with it till the end....erm...till i die ;)
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I think marriages end because most people aren't ready for commitment. They don't know how to commit. When there is a problem that's really intense, instead of working through it, the go I don't have time for this, I want a divorce. Sometimes they got married when they weren't in love to begin, then they end up feeling trapped. Some people get married just because they've had children with this person have to spend the rest of their life with them.

At least that's what I believe is the failure. (random thoughts) I loathe anyone who says divorce is more common now. Divorce is more common because before Divorce was either illegal or taboo so you were trapped.

I mean I'm sure there's more to it, but I know as soon as an intense argument comes up a lot of people just head for the hills, esp. if it's really intense. Throw in some mental disorders lol, and you've got yourself a bowl.

Then other times there's abuse and the sort. I mean there are so many reasons why marriages ends, but I think prob. the most reason is disillusionment, a person changes from A to Z, and in other cases, lack of commitment/lack of taking the time to at least try to work it out with each other etc.

Maybe, that's how I view it I guesss.
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