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Old 03-21-12, 10:51 PM   #31
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I'm a hard worker, so when I feel like I don't have a purpose, I feel shitty. I want to do something, but no one needs me.
It may seem like little comfort to you right now, but even your being on here does serve a very valid purpose. You're helping, listening and talking to people who need others and feel every bit as incontent and alone as you do.
You know you could make a major difference to someone in here, and isn't that worthy of commendation?
We all need to feel useful and needed, 20.
What else would an old fart like me be doing on here at this hour?
Should have had me cocoa and been in bed ages ago.
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Old 03-21-12, 11:06 PM   #32
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There's nothing I say though that someone else wouldn't say. I guess it's good if I'm the only one that reaches someone, but I don't think I am. I wish someone needed me in real life and not just here. I do appreciate what everyone on here has ever said to me and I'm honored if someone took my words to heart, but it's just not the same. I don't think I can live on just 'internet relationships'.
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Just to know someone else feels the way you do often helps you not feel so isolated. Now, wouldn't it be cool to transfer what you do in here to 'out there'? And I think you easily could, it just takes a little time for people to open up, and time for you to open up to them.
Everybody has problems. Some can deal with them effortlessly, others need time and a lot of effort to work things out.
And when it comes to what you say to people on here, it's not as much what you say as how you engage and interact with folks. Let's face it, you've been keeping me chatting, now haven't you? You're an interesting bloke, with good heart.
And point taken on the 'internet relationships', though they can help. It's like practice, right?
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Old 03-21-12, 11:37 PM   #34
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I hope I didn't mean that I don't value my 'internet friends' because I do. But I don't know how I can transfer that to real people. I feel like I can say anything here because I'm never going to run into any of you, or at least, I'll never know if I did. I can't open up to people as fast because some things are embarrassing or iffy to say to people before you can really trust them. I have more confidence here because I'm hidden behind a screen. It's safer.


And maybe I've been keeping you up because your just as messed up as me.
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Snap! You and me both Man.
The notoriety does make it easier to talk, doesn't it?
Truthfully, I don't trust people in person either. Most find it unsettling when you open up, and find you intense.
I do think, however, a word slipped in beneath the radar here....... 'confidence'?
It's hard earned, I know, but it will come. Like anything else, you'll need to get out there and catch it for yourself. Keep up the art, or music, or even yoga if you think it's an idea. Like minded folks will bring you out of yourself.

As for me being messed up as you.... I'm worse. I should have more sense by now!
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I think opening up to friends is like going all the way with them. It can either ruin the relationship or make it so much stronger, but it's very risky. Even though I tend to take chances, that's one thing I tend to play it safe. It would be nice though to get everything I've been wanting to say off my chest to someone in person, but it's too risky for me.

And not to be nosey, but if you're really from Ireland, you should be asleep. It is probably 5 or 6 am there. Unless you're that much of an early bird.
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Old 03-22-12, 12:09 AM   #37
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I hear you. Personally, I have no friends. Many acquaintances, but no friends. Even my family and siblings, whom I love very much and would do anything for, I don't 'share' with them. I've learned to carry my weights over time, and though it does weigh me down sometimes, I can generally hack it.
Don't recommend it though. Again, it takes time to get used to, and it's not healthy, mentally nor physically, hence me finding this site in the first place, heh, heh.

And yes, I reside on the Emerald Isle, and it's 05.10 am., and a Nighthawk, not early bird.
See? I said bottling up was unhealthy. ;p
Speaking of which.... ŽO ....

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