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Old 07-21-06, 05:47 AM   #1
 
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Okay, I debated what topic to put this under, but I figured that here would be just as good of a spot as any. I have a problem, suprise, suprise. I have been in really bad realtionships before. The last serious one that I was in was abusive (emotionally and physically) and after I ran from him he started to stalk me. He ended up going to jail, but that's just the backstory to my problem becasue I have come to terms with what happened to me.

But, I'm scared to trust guys now. I have two very close male friends who both know the majority of what happened. Even though I know that they would never hurt me, if I am upset or scared and they try and comfort me I flinch and pull away from them. I feel terrible becasue I dont mean to its just an automatic reaction, and even though they tell me that its okay and they understand why, I still see the hurt look that flashes across their face.

Its been almost six months now since my abusive ex got put in prision. I haven't had a real relationship since becasue I feel, for lack of a better term, jaded by the experience. Any advice on how to move on?
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Old 07-21-06, 06:12 AM   #2
 
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I, too, have had really bad luck with guys. I literaly lost my virginity-I was raped. And ever since that guy it seems I just keep having bad luck. He was very abusive, physically and emotionally, and he was into drugs. He too went to jail. Have I moved on? Well, I think I am doing better. The fact is that we can never really totally and completely move on. I still have nightmares about him, and there are times when I do something n my first thought is that I am going to be smacked for it, but my boyfriend that I have now wouldn't lay a hand on me. You just have to realize that not every guy is gonna be just like your ex. There are good people in the world. And yes trusting guys again is very hard, I still don't fully trust them. But that has just kept me out of trouble. I have come to realize that you can't live life without getting hurt. If its gonna happen its gonna happen. Whenever something bad happens to me I always tell myself that I will be Ok and that I will get over it, cuz its true. Yes it will scar you but that will just help you to be a stronger person in life. Dunno if any of this is really helping...
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Old 07-21-06, 03:56 PM   #3
 
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No it does really help becasue it makes me realize that I'm not the only one out there. None of my friends have been through anything remotely like this, so its comforting. I know that I'm doing better and I've accepted that it happened and what not. It's just getting back into the swing "normal life" that I'm struggling with. I also have nightmares that haunt me as badly as they did when all of this was happening. So thank you for your advice and support. It really does mean a lot to me.
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