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Old 03-10-14, 11:37 PM   #1
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This subject is heavy on my heart tonight! I am 3 years out from when my soon to be ex-husband left me without so much as a word! To this day he's never given me any clarity or closure! Three nights ago I received a email from him stating that he wanted me to call him??? So I sent an email back saying what's up? He responded right away with a picture??? I wasn't able to open it and send him another email saying unable to open! I knew because of the lateness of the hour that he was probably asleep so I ask him in the email if he wanted me to call him tomorrow???
The following day he kept sending me emails saying did you send me a picture?
What was it that you sent me? I was so incredibly confused!
He then said I got your message that said, "if you want me just call me"...!
And I was said what no... you misunderstood ..... I did not at all say if you want me call me ....! I said do you want me to call you in the morning! I told him I would never send him a message like that and humiliate myself because I know he doesn't want me! He then said I'm sorry I was half asleep I must have miss read it!
He then asked me 2 send him a picture of myself??? I said why? And he said, "oh I'm sorry that I bothered you I'll leave you alone"...!
I don't get it .... he's the one who left me filed for divorce and doesn't want to be with me why is he responding to me like this??? I've had a horrible time trying to move on and it's just sets me back so so much....!
I am so lost...
I wish that I could just move on so that I don't have to endure this constant aching...
How is it so easy for him....?????
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Old 03-11-14, 05:37 PM   #2
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I'm guessing single life wasn't what he was expecting. Maybe he realizes it wasn't so bad being married after all. As far as I'm concerned too late!!!!!

I think it would be best not to contact him and do not send a recent picture of yourself.

In all honesty, he sounds confused and messed up. He sounds childish for not breaking up with you properly and leaving you hanging. I think this guy is just a mess to be honest and I would stay away. I don't think you could be happy with this man because he doesn't know what he wants. I've broken up with men and later went back out with them again. You know what? There was a reason I broke up with them in the first place!!!!

Have you moved on and started dating other men????

or do you want to get back with him???? I think you should give another guy a chance to be with you. Just my thoughts though.
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Old 03-11-14, 06:40 PM   #3
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Thank you TooMuch...!
Yes, this has been his pattern over past 3 years... CRAZY!!
I have tried to date however, My heart is not in it still love my ex??????
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Yeah, I was hoping if you got out and dated you would forget this guy! Crazy is a good word! I just don't trust him from what you have written so far. Just comes off as flaky!especially the part where I'm sorry I bothered you comment. That just turned me off.

Is this about control over you? Can he get you back if he wants? Is it an ego thing? Just wondering. But I think it's more just crazy to me.

As for being 'stuck' on someone, well I'm in the same boat too. Got lots of threads on here about that. Haven't got myself out of that situation yet either.
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Yeah, I was hoping if you got out and dated you would forget this guy! Crazy is a good word! I just don't trust him from what you have written so far. Just comes off as flaky!especially the part where I'm sorry I bothered you comment. That just turned me off.

Is this about control over you? Can he get you back if he wants? Is it an ego thing? Just wondering. But I think it's more just crazy to me.

As for being 'stuck' on someone, well I'm in the same boat too. Got lots of threads on here about that. Haven't got myself out of that situation yet either.
Dammmmmmmmmmmmmmmm girl.... lmbo you are right on... bammmmm but new relationship but bammmmm same old shi*
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Yeah, I was hoping if you got out and dated you would forget this guy! Crazy is a good word! I just don't trust him from what you have written so far. Just comes off as flaky!especially the part where I'm sorry I bothered you comment. That just turned me off.

Is this about control over you? Can he get you back if he wants? Is it an ego thing? Just wondering. But I think it's more just crazy to me.

As for being 'stuck' on someone, well I'm in the same boat too. Got lots of threads on here about that. Haven't got myself out of that situation yet either.
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My two cents worth here. Hope it helps.

My experience taught me that when a relationship is over, it is over. Despite the fact that your soon to be ex-husband had vowed to be with you for life, he walked out on you. He'll do it again.

You don't need or deserve that pain! Sad part is that his contacting you means he's lonely and wants you for a stop gap. Don't let him treat you like that. I've been through that before with an ex-girlfriend and yes, it really hurt.

You're better off moving on with your life. Don't force yourself into the dating scene but don't be afraid to say hello to others. That particular fear almost stopped me from asking someone out on a date. A friend of mine threatened to embarrass me by asking her out on my behalf. Big favour as that someone is now my wife.

Best of luck to you.

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