Originally Posted by gondal
This girl that I've known for years. That I've loved even more than my own family for YEARS just left me like I'm nothing. Like I don't even matter and am completely worthless. I even trusted her so much that I told her all my secrets and my personal things but she still just abandoned me. Wow. Who does that?
I don't even know if she loves me anymore or not or what she's thinking. It's been almost 4 weeks since I heard from her. The only thing she told me is that her mom doesn't want her to talk to me anymore. She doesn't even have the DECENCY to at least tell me the truth if she doesn't love me anymore or not. At least this girl could have the decency to tell me herself that she doesn't want to talk to me anymore instead of just completely vanishing the way she did.
Honestly I don't know why she told me almost every day for years that she'd always love me just as much as her best friend for life if she didn't mean it. I don't know why someone would promise to never leave and be with you for life and just end up doing something like this. It's a very fucked up immoral thing to do. After you made so many promises to someone you just leave them like that? Without even telling them the truth about why? That's very low and cowardly. She should have never even told me she loved me for years and never made all those promises if she never meant them. It's a very bad thing to do to someone.
Yes I wasn't perfect to her. It's true. I did treat her bad a lot but she should have at least had the decency to be honest with me about it instead of just abanadining me the way she did and breaking all the promises she made for years to me. I'm still very upset about this and I'm really not sure what to think about her anymore and I'm not sure what to do.
There are plenty of reasons of how this may have played out. I don't like to go around in circles, but do feel that most of what you wrote in this post about morals and decency, should perhaps be her asking about your own conduct.
You may learn in future relationships, that the answer to your first question of who does a thing like this. Well, many a relationship that breaks down after X number of years, the persons may not speak to each other for the reasons of the breakdown. It doesn't mean they are telling all the secrets to others though.
I have an aunt and uncle divorcing now after perhaps 40 years together. That would be a lot of experiences and secrets through the years. After my own divorce I think we didn't speak for maybe 5-6 months, and then only a few words, both feeling hurt over things.
The more of you that you put into a relationship, often the more hurt you feel when it ends.