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Old 07-21-06, 01:47 PM   #1
 
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I have a boyfriend of 4 1/2 years and 2 kids with him. we have had some really bad times latly but i still love him. Over the last 4 years I have still been inlove with my ex bf / best friend. He is good friends with my BF too. But he is always telling me when my BF is doing something that he shouldn't be doing or that my friend thinks I should know about. Me and my friend have loved eachother since we were just very little. He was my first kiss at age 4. He is a year younger than me and we went out for about 5 months when about 5 years ago it dint work out. We were more friends than anything. We both agree on that. I love my BF now but the feelings for my friend have always been stronger. Just these last 2 weeks we have been talking more and a few fridays ago he asked me if I wanted to hook up sometime and not to tell my bf. I have always thought that we wouldend up to gether again. I dont know what do do any advice.
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Old 07-21-06, 06:53 PM   #2
 
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Hi Deathsfilly, my goodness, you have quite a soap opera in the making.
When faced with the opportunity to get what I want but what I want isn't really very good for another who I also care about, I try to look for a compromise or for the way to handle this with the least amount of potential hurt.

You can't help feeling for the first BF/current friend. You also care for current BF who is also the father of your children. First BF has offered a "hook up" and you are tempted. I'd make the decision based on what is for the best and highest good for the most people.
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Old 07-21-06, 10:14 PM   #3
 
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since you are in the situation of what to do about money, your bf's job situation and the whole wanting to move south, i think adding another problem will only make everything worse. you may be trying to escape one situation to run to another that will give you what you "need" I'd be careful.
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Old 07-22-06, 08:15 AM   #4
 
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My life is a soap opera. It always has been. I want out of it. You guys give great advice. Why are more problems to what I already have. Right? I just know that me and my current BF are on the verge of a break up and I am afraid to be alone. But than agaain if we split maybe it would be best for me to stay on my own for a while. Find my self kind of thing. I have been thinking of leaveing to go to a job somewhere without my BF and kids but I couldnt be to far from my boys. I feel like I am being pulled into two different directions. It is confusing and stressful. Thank you for your help. You got me thinking in the right direction.
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